How to Approach a Girl…And Impress Her!
How to Approach a Girl…And Impress Her!

How to Approach a Girl…And Impress Her!

Written by the Social Attraction Team

We get it: when you see a beautiful woman from across the room, it’s easy to feel nervous about approaching her.

The good news?

You’re not alone. These days especially, many men feel like they don’t have what it takes to approach a girl. You might feel shy, inadequate, or just have no clue what to say.

However, keep in mind that 1/3 of the population is currently single – and many have never been married at all. The reality is that women want to meet a great guy, but too many men are afraid to approach a girl.

Don’t let the next opportunity you have to connect with a woman pass you by. Instead, use our advice on how to approach a girl and make an awesome first impression.

It Starts Before You Speak

News flash: approaching a girl starts way before you even say “hello” to her. When you see someone stunning at a party or in a pub, it’s important to show her that you’ve noticed her.

Try to make eye contact with her from across the room. When you do, hold her gaze for no longer than three seconds, then walk away.  If she follows you, she’s definitely interested. However, if she doesn’t, don’t give up hope.

If you can, try to give her a smile! If she follows you, she’s definitely interested. However, if she doesn’t, don’t give up hope.

If she follows you, she’s definitely interested. However, if she doesn’t, don’t give up hope.

She may be just as shy as you are, or she may feel uncomfortable leaving her friends. To make sure she got the message, send a round of drinks over to her table. Or, just go over and ask her and her friends to join you at the bar!

Women love a man with confidence, and who isn’t afraid to make a bold move. Go for it.

Go for it.

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Know What to Say When You Approach a Girl

Another reality check? Especially thanks to the rise of online dating, women are sick and tired of hearing pickup lines.

First of all, they’re incredibly boring and certainly don’t make a girl feel special. Also, they just make you come off as lazy. No woman wants to hear the same line you’ve used on fifteen other women.

Instead, your conversation needs to show that you are interested in learning more about her. Ask lots of questions, but avoid making it sound like you’re quizzing her.

Stuck for ideas on solid conversation topics?

Try a few of these ideas:

  • Can she recommend a place to eat in the area?
  • Is she celebrating something special tonight?
  • What was the last movie she watched?
  • What did she study in school?
  • What’s the funniest thing she’s seen on YouTube recently?

At first, aim to keep the conversation light. We highly recommend staying away from heavier topics like politics and religion.

When speaking to her, listen closely for things the two of you have in common. Do you live in the same area? Do you both have an older brother? Both fans of the same television show?

Build on that!

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How to Keep Things Going

It’s important that you use this time with her to show off your skills. Focus on what sets you apart from the other men at the bar.

Did you just come back from an awesome vacation?

Recently got a promotion at work?

Completed a home improvement project, or score a new client?

Talk about that! To ensure that it doesn’t come off as sounding like you’re bragging, ask her about her own recent accomplishments. Be sure you always direct the conversation back to your recent successes.

Not only will this impress her, but it will also help you to build up your confidence when speaking to her!

Never forget the importance of body language. When speaking, turn your face and body towards hers, and always try to maintain eye contact. A gentle touch on the hand, or brushing her hair out of her face, is also a good idea.

When you’re making a point, place your hand on her knee. Use her reaction to gauge her interest.

How to Close the Deal

Keep in mind that, no matter what your goal is — whether it’s getting her back to your place or just getting her number — it’s up to you to make it happen.

It’s highly likely that she’s waiting for you to make a move. You don’t want to leave her disappointed. Still, you want to make an effort to keep the mystery going. You don’t want it to seem like you have a clear idea of where the night is headed. Try something like, “I don’t want to

It’s all about keeping an air of spontaneity – even if you have a list of three restaurants that are open past midnight you could take her to.

Try something like, “I don’t want to seem presumptuous, but I’m having a great time talking to you. Want to grab something to eat at a place that’s a little quieter?”

You could also say something along the lines of, “I’m really exhausted, but I’d love to continue this conversation tomorrow. Fancy letting me cook you brunch?”

Either way, it’s important that you show your dominance. Show her that you’re someone who is full of ideas — whether you’re interested in a fling or a longer relationship.

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Looking for More Advice on How to Approach a Girl?

Now that you’ve read this article, you’re ready to put these ideas into practice! Don’t feel bad if the first few times, things don’t go as smoothly as you’d hoped.

Sometimes, dating is about learning what works and what doesn’t. The point is though, that every time you approach a girl, you’ll get more and more confident.

Need more advice on how to impress women? Want to meet the girl of your dreams – and get to her before someone else does?

Check out our blog or get in touch with us for more dating advice.

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