Don’t Be Afraid To Fail – This Is Who I Am
In the early days of learning how to attract women I used to get really frustrated about why I wasn’t getting success with the women who I found genuinely attractive.
After some soul searching and reflecting, I discovered that I was actually acting differently around women who I really liked. Ultimately, this was because I felt like I didn’t want to make any mistakes as I was afraid of failing and ruining my chance with her.
In a nutshell I was afraid to showcase my personality for a fear of failure. However, over time, I have come to recognise that failure is inevitable; in fact here are three compelling reasons why we shouldn’t be afraid to fail.
Don’t Be Afraid To Fail #1: Express Our Personality
What I now realise is that by not taking risks we are more likely to come across as boring, dull and uninteresting. This mindset also helps us to overcome approach anxiety by taking control of new situations.
Now when I am speaking with women (whether I am attracted to them or not), I express my personality to its full extent “This is me and this is who I am”.
At my core, I now no longer allow attractive women to alter my state and how I’m feeling. I can’t even begin to explain how much more relaxed, composed and confident this makes me as a man.
Don’t Be Afraid To Fail #2: Natural Connection
Rather than trying to entertain her and trying to get her to like me, now I want to find out if she is someone who I want to spend more time with.
We teach on our pick up artist courses that if she is someone who resonates with my personality and my humour, then I’ve found time and again that the interaction naturally progresses to the next stage.
The irony is that by not being afraid to fail, getting rejected actually happens far less than by simply sitting on the fence.
Don’t Be Afraid To Fail #3: Remove Our Filter
In my experience if we can remove our internal filter and express ourselves fully, then we are far more likely to remain in the present moment.
If we can automatically say (or do) whatever is the first thing that comes into our heads, then this serves to illuminate our confidence, self worth and character.
We explain on our dating coach courses that by being unafraid to showcase our personality, our natural charm and magnetism allows women to tune in to who we really are as individuals.
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