How To Overcome The Fear Of Approaching Women – Proximity
Are we more likely to approach women we like when we are feeling calm and relaxed or when we are tense and anxious?
We teach on our daygame courses that we are much more able to push ourselves and take a risk when we remove the pressure, make it easy on ourselves and take things one step at a time.
From my experience, it’s usually our mind which makes us feel stressed because as soon as we start thinking about talking to women we inevitably create a million scenarios in our head of what could go wrong.
Proximity #1: Autopilot
What if we could start approaching women as an automatic response, before our brain even has a chance to think about it? We explain on our dating coach courses that we can do this very simply by focusing on getting proximity and nothing else.
This means that when we see a girl we like, we start moving our feet immediately to stand or walk nearby her. Close enough so we could talk to her if we wanted to, but remembering that we do not have to unless we feel ready to.
It is, of course, important that we do this in a natural and casual way so that we do not raise suspicion.
Proximity #2: One Step At A Time
Once we are standing or walking next to her, we can then make the decision about whether we want to start a conversation or not.
We teach on our pick up artist courses that the key is to take it one step at a time. The first step is about getting close to her and then crossing the next bridge when we get there and not a moment before.
It’s important to remind ourselves that we do not have to engage with her if we don’t want to and not to criticise ourselves if we choose not to.
Proximity #3: Practice
When we are learning how to attract women this takes the pressure away so we can actually enjoy the process and start to associate positive emotions with approaching women.
Once we feel ready and comfortable, we will naturally want to take the next step and open our mouths to say something to her rather than forcing ourselves to. But it’s vital that we take it at our own pace move onto the next step when we feel ready to.
By practising this over and over again, it becomes an instinctive reaction which we do without thinking about.
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