The Rules of Warming Up With Women
Whilst hosting our pick up artist courses in a new city, I usually arrive early to have a look around some of the local shops, cafes and bars and will get chatting with a lot of the locals. What I have discovered by doing this, is that it gives me a warm up and I am immediately confident as soon as I get into a bar on Friday night to start engaging with women.
Would you expect Roger Federer to play in a Wimbledon final (or any match for the matter) before he has warmed up and hit a few balls?
Of course not, and speaking with women is no different. So if we have spent all day sitting in front of a computer not talking to anyone, we can’t expect to go out on a Friday night and be in a sociable state straight away.
The Rules Of Warming Up #1: Talk To Anyone
We can go to a coffee shop and have a chat with the person serving us, or we could go into a shop and ask for help choosing some shoes. We can chat to the person sat next to us on the train or the person behind us in a queue.
It doesn’t have to be anything clever or complicated, even just asking them how their day has been can be enough to get our conversational muscles going. Warming up also reduces our approach anxiety as it helps to alleviate the tension caused from not speaking with anyone new.
The Rules Of Warming Up #2: Don’t Be Critical
The first couple of interactions may not be fantastic or go exactly the way we want, but the outcome isn’t important. What’s important is that we are getting ourselves into a sociable mood and loosening up.
Rather than criticising ourselves, it’s much more beneficial to remind ourselves that it is just a warm up and focus on the positives. When learning how to attract women the more new experiences we can gain the more we’ll see our results improve.
The Rules Of Warming Up #3: Reflect
One great lesson that I’ve learned as a dating coach is that when we get home it is critical that we reflect on our interactions and analyse them in a POSITIVE way by asking ourselves the following questions;
What did we do well?
What did we learn from it?
What will we add or do differently next time?
The result of warming up and talking to people by following these simple steps is that it helps to build our confidence and become more sociable in general. Then, when we see a woman we are attracted to it is far easier for us to approach them, and moreover we are more likely to have a good interaction.
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