Approaching Women – How To Energise Ourselves In 3 Seconds
In an ideal world when we are learning how to talk to girls we want to feel relaxed enough to convey our true personality. One question that I am often posed is how can we achieve this when we are feeling a little bit low and dejected?
So here are my top three ways to induce some feelings of confidence, self worth and energy.
Approaching Women #1: Positive Affirmations
In the cold light of day when we are learning how to start a conversation with a girl, we only have a few seconds to decide whether we are going to approach her or not.
It is in this very moment where positive affirmations are able to generate some vital courage, self-belief and confidence.
On our training courses the following three declarations have literally been life changing for many of our clients:
“I feel cool, calm and collected.”
“I can handle all things that come to me”
“I can do it! I can do it! I can do it!”
The key is to repeat these phrases as soon as we see an attractive girl and our mind will start focusing on the positives and potentials; meaning we are far more likely to engage new women in conversation.
Approaching Women #2: Visualisations
I’ve noticed that when we are about to start our first new interaction of the day that our minds can often conjure up negative images of all the things that might go wrong.
One effective way of learning how to get a girl to like you is to use a simple visualisation of playing back some of our previous successes with women.
I’ve found that when we focus our attention on the fact that we have achieved success before, we begin to feel calmer and more relaxed with the belief that we can indeed can more success approaching women in the future.
Approaching Women #3: Power Questions
Asking ourselves the right kind of question is an immediate way to change our mental outlook. The skill here is to ask ourselves questions that only have a positive answer, for example:
“What is good about this situation?”
“What did I do well during that interaction?”
“What can I do to make this girl’s day?”
Having a few power questions in the locker can serve to keep our energy and optimism levels high when we are approaching women. Over time I’ve also learned that it can also be extremely beneficial when we are also learning how to compliment a girl for the first time.
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