How To Attract Women | The Ultimate Guide (Long-Term Dating Strategies)

How To Attract Women | The Ultimate Guide (Long-Term Dating Strategies)

How To Attract Women | The Ultimate Guide (Long-Term Dating Strategies)

How To Attract Women | The Ultimate Guide (Long-Term Dating Strategies)

How To Attract Women | The Ultimate Guide (Long-Term Dating Strategies)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, you will learn how to attract women focussing on a longer-term approach.

It’s probably best to read this when you’re feeling lonely, when you’re feeling depressed and when you’re feeling down because guess what?

You are absolutely responsible for why you’ve ended up here right now. One piece of advice can prove to be the catalyst for change in your dating life.

A lot of the time most of us can feel like our life is outside of our control. We’re waiting for a girl to text us back.

We’re sat at home watching Netflix when we’d rather be out on a date. We’re sat down and we have anxiety in our face because we don’t know what to do and we feel like our life’s not quite working out.

If you trace back your life and where you are right now, you will realise that you are here because of the seeds that you planted at previous points in your life.

How to attract women #1 – Planting your seeds of success

Had you instead planted a seed where you read books on success?

On evolutionary psychology and psychology. A seed which you allowed to germinate over the past 10 years of your life?Or did you decide not to do that and to watch TV instead?

How do you think that seed that you planted 10 years ago would be acting out now?

And here’s the great news. You can begin as you read this today, to start planting new seeds so that you never have to feel again the way that you feel today.

You can start planting these seeds immediately and be the person who gets what they want from life. And the way of doing that is to conjecture forward the next 10 years of your life and to start planting those seeds today. We all have a picture of the person that we want to be in the future.

We all feel that we have great individual talents and there are parts of our personality that are unique to us. Aspects that we want to harness and cultivate to become that person who is inspirational or that person who is super attractive to women.

Well, it all starts by planting some seeds today. I’m now going to go over the top three ways in which you can do that.

How to attract women #2 – Working on your craft

A few years ago I had a girl who was working for me on my courses. She was a model and an aspiring actress, and she had all the energy in the world and in her mind. Probably going to the top.

She was going to be the next best thing. Over time, what gradually happened is that she came up against a lot of problems in her life where she went for auditions and she didn’t get the show or the job.

The rejections mounted up.

Slowly and surely she went from being this bright star to becoming someone who was worn down by life. But here’s the interesting point.

When you look at what she was doing in her day to day life. She no longer practised what it was that she wanted to be and wanted to become. Furthermore, she was waiting for the audition.

She became anxious when she wasn’t working, and then she would say:

“I need to go to networking. I need to meet more people.”

If you want to be world-class at anything, it starts with daily practise taking the time to hone your craft. So as you read this, think about what it is that you want to develop in your life?

How to attract women

What latent ability do you have that can plant the seed of dating success?

Where you think I can do that, or perhaps there’s someone inspiring in your life and you look at them and you say, I wish I could do that.

The good news is you can absolutely do that. And it starts with planting a seed today. And the way that you do that is by deciding that if I want to be that person in 10 years.

Then I need to start becoming that person today. And that starts with making better decisions to become that person.

How to attract women #3 – Definitive standards

The second way that you can plant seeds about your future is to think about what your frustrations are right now.

As you read this; what are you frustrated with in your life? What are you not willing to stand for anymore?

Crucially, a shift happens when you begin to draw a line in the sand that has been defined. You decide that you’re not going to go back and you’re no longer going to put up with this anymore.

What happens is that you elevate your thoughts and you elevate your mind to move yourself on to that next phase in your life.

You have to be willing to take the time to draw that line. If you’re frustrated that you’re chasing women all the time, then stop and put your effort into something else. Stop being on Tinder three hours a day.

Stop chasing women

Do not online dating three hours a day. Stop chasing women till 4:00 AM going to nightclubs getting drunk all the time.

Draw a line in the sand. Decide, that’s not me anymore. I want to move on to that next phase of my life. I’m going to draw the line. I’m not going to be that person.

Yes, I know that’s going to be hard. if you don’t want to feel like this anymore, then you need to accept that there has to be a change process. So drawing a line in the sand and deciding to move on will be a huge change and shift in your life.

How to attract women #4 – Having a strong and clear intent

Finally, with this ‘falling away’ you can then start planting the seeds of success for your dating life. You do this by having intent on what you want.

I don’t believe in having a step by step strategy in life because they don’t work. I believe more in putting out your intent into the world and creating a corridor of uncertainty.

Now, what do I mean by that? I mean that if you’re doing a job that you hate and no longer want to do. What most people do is try and procure another job so that they’re safe and that they’re secure.

You have to have that corridor of uncertainty and that starts by shutting off the old and creating space. When you have space, you can think differently. You have to be willing to shut off the things that you don’t like in your life.

You have to be willing to burn the old to create the new. When you do that, the corridor of uncertainty shows you what you should be doing in your life. What most of us do most of the time is we try and control things.

The illusion of control will ruin your dating life

When we’re talking to women, we try and control it. We try and learn these conversation strategies to control what’s going on so that we get the end result. And the thing is, as read this, the word ‘control’ makes you tense.

It makes you outcome-orientated. It makes you want something from the other person. Whereas with the corridor of uncertainty, you’re intent is there.

It is my intent to speak to more women. It is my intent to have a better dating life. Having that intent is a powerful thing.

It is my intent to change my career, but that intent has to be strong. You have to be willing to follow through on your intent when the time’s right. To face that corridor of uncertainty and the thing is if you play out these two, it’s really interesting.

How to attract women #5 – Become content with uncertainty

The person that tries to control everything becomes manipulative because he’s trying to control the outcome of everything that’s going on. He may even start to coerce people if he’s not getting the results that he wants. Whereas you have someone else who’s content with uncertainty, he’s happy.

He lives in an uncertain nature because he knows that with intent and single-minded focus that whatever he wants in his life will have to manifest itself.

Now the thing is as you begin to grow in confidence and you enter that corridor of uncertainty. What’s going to happen is all of your insecurities are going to come up all at once and your fear is going to kick in.

In my experience, living a life based on your fears is a life that’s not worth living. I think that we get one shot at life and we do not want to be influenced by fear.

That corridor of uncertainty is certainly going to bring up some fears in your life that will need to be addressed.

How to attract women #6 – Mental toughness

One of the most potent ways of dealing with that is taking time to process in your daily life. What do I mean by that?

I don’t mean a standard meditation. I mean you take half an hour to an hour a day and you just process your life. You think about what’s going on, you slow your breathing down. You can even lie down as you’re thinking about things in your life.

Simply process what’s going on until you’re no longer affected. These fears just come up and create anxiety and we don’t know why.

However, when you take the time to process the things in your life, all of a sudden you have perspective. You can see what’s going on and the tension in your face will be diminished.

The end result is that when you do that, you will be the person that you want to be ten years from now.

How to attract women – Summary

So just to round up part two of this article:

  • #1 –  I spoke about the reason why your single; namely because of the decisions you made in your life 10 years ago.
  • #2 – The reason why you’re feeling lonely is because of the decisions that you made and a good point about that is that you never need to feel like that again.
  • #3 –  If you start planting the new seeds of success in your life today, one of the ways that I spoke about of doing that is to imagine the person that you would like to be in the future and start doing the daily rituals that will make you that person.
  • #4 – drawing a line in the sand and moving up in a world where you’re no longer willing to accept things that aren’t acceptable to you.
  • #5 – having intent in your life and being comfortable living in that corridor of uncertainty.


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