How To Connect With Women Emotionally

How To Connect With Women Emotionally

How To Connect With Women Emotionally

How To Connect With Women Emotionally

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How To Connect With Women Emotionally

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An emotion is a strong feeling stemming from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationship with others.

A connection is a relationship in which a person or thing is connected or associated with something else.

So, an emotional connection is where we are linked or associated with someone else via our emotions.

How Most Men Connect with Women

Most of us try and connect with women via factual information; which is surface level dialogue and offers no real emotional response.

We have the same job, we have the same hobbies, or we’ve travelled to the same places … Whilst these are commonalities; typically, they do not create any form of emotional response.

A great way of learning how to better connect with women is to imagine their emotions to be like a fluctuating heart rate monitor.

Where a flat line is when we have zero emotional response from women during an interaction. This happens when we try and bond over unemotive or boring topics.

There are many different ways to move women off this flat line in conversation. In this workshop we will be focussing on creating powerful positive and negative emotional connections with women.

Structure For Creating A Positive Emotional Connection

Step 1 – Eliciting A Positive Emotion With The Right Conversation.

We can use both questions and statements to elicit emotional responses from women. The aim here is to move girls off the flat line in conversation by prompting some optimistic feelings.

Example Questions

Was that an exciting experience?

Was that a thrilling experience?

Did that feel emotionally energising?

Example Statements

It seems like that would be an electrifying experience.

That sounds sensational; tell me more about how your felt.

You must have felt motivated after you came through that tough period.

Emotional terms that generate a positive response:

Exciting

Thrilling

Stimulating

Electrifying

Sensational

Energising

Motivating

Our aim here is to allow women the opportunity to open about the joys in their life.

 

Step 2 – Going Deeper In Dialogue

Girl – “I’ve just got back from a really hard acting audition.”

Us – “How did that feel emotionally; must have been energising.”

Girl – “Yes; when I got out it was a huge sense of relief. Like I gave my all and I had nothing left.”

Her emotionally charged words in this conversation are “gave my all.” And “had nothing left.”

At this stage the girl is opening about her emotions and as a result we are moving her away from the flat line in conversation, and towards feeling some strong and powerful positive emotions.

Step 3 – Repeating back the emotionally charged words

Us – “So when you gave you all and you had nothing left; how does that make you feel?”

Girl – “Proud.”

At this stage we have successfully moved her away from a flat line in conversation and we can now begin to connect with her on a much deeper level.

How To Connect With Women Emotionally

Step 4 – Connect with core emotion about your life.

Us – I feel at my most proud when I’m really struggling at the gym and I don’t quit I carry on and I know that later I’ll look back and feel extremely proud of my achievement.

We can then continue to delve into this conversation until we get a sense that we are going too deep; at this stage we then want to fluctuate to the other end of the emotional spectrum.

Structure For Creating A Negative Emotional Connection

Step 1 – Eliciting A Negative Emotion With The Right Conversation.

We can use both questions and statements to elicit emotional responses from women. The aim here is to move women off a flat line in conversation by prompting some negative emotions.

Example Questions

How did that difficult experience make you feel?

Was that emotionally tough to take?

How did you get through that trying time?

 

Example Statements

It seems like that would be an extremely hard task.

Tell me more about the challenges you overcame.

How did that feel emotionally; just have been strenuous .

Terms:

Difficult

Tough

Trying

Hard

Challenging

Strenuous

Demanding

Our aim here is to enter into the underworld; we want her to open up about the difficulties in her life. This principle adds depth to our dialogue with women.

Step 2 – Going Deeper In Dialogue

Girl – “I’ve just got back from a really hard acting audition.”

Us – “I imagine that must be a difficult experience.”

Girl – “Well I’m really tired today and I just wanted to quit half way through.”

 Her emotionally charged words in this conversation are “tired” and “wanted to quit.”

At this stage the girl is opening up about her emotions and as a result we are moving her away from a flat line in conversation towards feeling some strong and powerful negative emotions.

Step 3 – Repeat back the emotionally charged words.

Us – “So when you’re tired and wanting to quit; how would you describe that negative emotion?”

Girl – “Strenuous and difficult”

At this stage we have successfully moved her away from the flat line in conversation and we can begin to connect with her based on her fundamental feelings.

Conversation Ammunition

Step 4 – Connect with her core emotion.

Us – I often feel that life can be strenuous and difficult a lot of the time. As kids we’re not taught how to deal with our emotions and it can very difficult not to let them get in the way especially when we’re trying to perform.

We can then continue this conversation until we get a sense that we are going too deep; then we can fluctuate back to a more positive theme.

How To Truly Connect With Women – The Perfect Blend Of Emotions

In my experience the best way to truly connect with women is to first focus on the negative end of the spectrum. This is normally the area that most men are too scared to delve down deeper; due to the vulnerability required to truly relate based on our inner most feelings.

Once we have connected with her roots in the underworld; we can then bond within the sky of her conscioow usness; thus creating the perfect blend of emotional dynamism.

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