Eye Contact Attraction | The Power Of Eye Sex (updated 2021)

Eye Contact Attraction | The Power Of Eye Sex (updated 2021)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, you will learn how to create eye contact attraction with women. I will be going through powerful eye contact principles that you can use right away to improve your dating confidence with women.

You will learn:

  • How to improve your eye contact
  • The power of eye sex with women
  • How to read women’s go-ahead signals

I recall teaching these techniques to a 19-year-old client in Edinburgh who was attracted to women in their late 20’s. He appeared confident, charming and charismatic, yet he could not hold eye contact with women. What we found is that his outward confidence was attractive to the younger girls. However, when he was speaking to more confident women they could see through the bravado. So we started from scratch. I got him to stop speaking and hold eye contact for sixty seconds with my female coaching assistant. That was the first time in his life that he had ever held a woman’s gaze. He said he felt vulnerable at first and wanted to look away. Yet, after twenty seconds, he relaxed and started to feel a magnetic pull into the girl’s eyes. Welcome to the power of eye sex – not bad at 19 years-of-age!

Outlined in this article are simple and powerful principles that make you sexually attractive to women – fast!


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Does eye contact always mean attraction?


Eye contact from women has different meanings and it is important to be able to decipher her different types:

  • If you get eye contact with a girl and she looks down this is a sign she may be attracted to you
  • If she looks up and away this is typically a sign that a woman does not find you attractive
  • Finally, if she looks to the side there is an ambiguity there, meaning she may or may not be attracted to you

Taking notice of a woman’s other body language responses when you first make eye contact will help you to identify if there is a mutual attraction there.

Eye contact signs of attraction

In my professional opinion if a girl is attracted to you then she will give you a cluster of body language signs.

Here are the three main ones:

  • Touching her hair
  • Prolonged smiling
  • Deep eye contact

I have created the following infographic guide to help you recognise the other signs of when a woman is flirting. You should also read my signs she’s flirting article.


15 signs a woman is flirting and trying to build eye contact attraction


Signs of mutual attraction eye contact?


The best way to know if there are signs of mutual attraction eye contact is to look out for a particular combination of responses from a woman.

As mentioned above these are called body language clusters and the main one to look out for is eye contact with hair play. It was when I first started to coach men to meet women in the day that I noticed this particular body language cluster from women.

Generally, if a woman first sees us and then plays with her hair and looks down, she is receptive to starting a conversation.

Hair-playing with eye contact

If we pause for a second and think about this initial response from a woman.

When we see an attractive lady, our automatic response is to feel a surge of energy in our bodies. Sometimes we label this as ‘anxiety,’ I prefer to label it as a ‘call to action.’

Nevertheless, in my experience, women also feel this same energy surge in their bodies. This is commonly channelled into playing with their hair. What this also does is create a powerful impact of drawing our attention towards her body.

The biology behind eye contact

Understanding these biological responses helps us to have the confidence to walk over and start a new conversation with women.

This is a hidden gem that I have been teaching my clients for years. I remember teaching it to a 27-year-old client in London, who had a shotgun approach to speaking to women. Instead, we improved his style and taught him the eye contact attraction signs to look out for. And now he approaches fewer women (ones that give him the go-ahead signs), yet he has a much higher dating success rate.

In my infographic below you will find three powerful principles that enhance your attractiveness to women. You can also read my how to attract women instantly article.


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Holding eye contact attraction?


The simplest way to generate eye contact attraction with a girl is to hold eye contact with her until she looks away first.

The reason for this is that it has been scientifically proven that the longer you hold eye contact with women, the more oxytocin is released.

Oxytocin is a chemical that is linked to our feelings of love and closeness with women.

Supercharged eye contact

To supercharge your eye contact with women then lift your chin to the point where you can no longer see your feet.

By lifting your chin to this level you are elevating your posture and demonstrating powerful and commanding body language.

This has the effect of preventing us from looking down or away first when we first meet women.

Insecure eye contact

In fact, breaking eye contact with a woman and looking away first is a big sign of insecurity – and one that women notice.

I have created the infographic below to outline other signs of insecurity that turn women off.

You can also read my dating coach for men article here where I go into more depth on each of these negative traits and how to overcome them.


9 reasons why men can't build eye contact attraction with women


Intense eye contact attraction?


The best way to enhance eye contact attraction with women is by slowing down your voice.

Slowing down your voice means you can hold deeper eye contact as you will not be so focused on what you are going to say next in the conversation.

If you picture kissing a girl for the first time, the slower you are speaking the easier it is to move closer and to share intimacy.

Eye contact intimacy

Slowing down your voice and holding strong eye contact are two guaranteed ways to become more confident around women.

Once you have a base level of eye contact and vocal control you can then start to add other features to your dating strategy.

Eye contact attraction and flirting with women are strategies that I can teach you. To learn more then visit my live training page and book a consultation call.


Model next to three ways to flirt with women


Summary


  • Read a woman’s eye contact: If she looks down she is interested in you. To the left and she is unsure. If she looks up and away she is showing disinterest.
  • When she plays with her hair while holding deep eye contact with you she is attracted to you.
  • Do not look away from women first because it conveys insecurity.
  • Add a seductive voice to create deeper eye contact attraction with women.

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