Eye Contact Attraction | The Power Of Eye Sex (what you need to know)

Eye Contact Attraction | The Power Of Eye Sex (what you need to know)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, you will learn how to create eye contact attraction with women.

I will be teaching you the best techniques that I teach in my dating confidence courses.

These techniques are invaluable when you first meet a woman to generate powerful feelings of attraction and ensure she remembers you long after the interaction.

  • In the first three points, I will teach you the fundamentals of eye contact attraction with women
  • In the second section, I will demonstrate the power of eye sex when you first meet women
  • You will also find a summary of the main points at the end of this article

#1 – Reading Her Eye Movements


First of all, if you get eye contact with a girl and she looks down, you can consider this a sign that she might be attracted to you.

However, if she looks up and away, it is generally a sign that she doesn’t find you attractive.

And finally, if she looks to the side it is a sign she may or may not be attracted to you – there is an ambiguity there.

That is the first step in understanding a woman’s eye contact.

In addition to any potential eye contact attraction, you should also take notice of a woman’s other body language response.

Specifically, whether her initial response to you has an energy to it.

This may show as:

  • Standing up straighter
  • Leaning in towards you
  • Touching her hair

In fact, touching her hair is a really strong indicator that she is attracted to you.

To give you confidence in knowing when a woman is flirting with you, I have created the following infographic which outlines the 15 signs to look out for that demonstrate attraction from a woman.

You can read the full article here – Signs She’s Flirting With You | The Comprehensive Guide (15 FAQ’s)


15 signs a woman is flirting and trying to build eye contact attraction


#2 – Reading Her Body Movements


There is one combination of traits a woman displays when she is attracted to you that we can take with a degree of certainty.

That is eye contact with hair play.

This is what I have observed over my years as a dating coach.

Namely, when you first get eye contact with a girl and her first response is an energetic one. Additionally, she also plays with her hair.

This is typically a sign that she is attracted to you.

And if you think about this logically, it makes sense, because what is our first response when we see an attractive girl?

We feel energised; some of us nudge our friend next to us and say:

“Have you seen that attractive girl over there?

  • There is a biological response in us that energises us and, likewise, women feel exactly the same
  • Understanding the biological responses will help give you confidence in starting a conversation

Because recognising the meaning behind getting eye contact with hair playing from a girl gives you clarity in taking your next steps.

It is really a go-ahead signal that she wants you to go and talk to her. Having this knowledge will give you more confidence in starting more conversations with women.

As per the image below we can teach you how to read a woman’s go ahead signals.

To find out more about our coaching then visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


A model with three ways to read her go-ahead signals


#3 – Do Not Look Away First!


When you first get eye contact with a woman, you want to hold eye contact with her until she looks away first.

The reason for this is that it has been scientifically proven that the longer you hold eye contact with women, the more oxytocin is released – a chemical which is linked to our ability to form connections with others.

If you want to supercharge this technique something else that you can do when you are holding eye contact with her is just to lift your chin up slightly.


Enhance your eye contact attraction.


This way you are almost gazing down at the girl when you are speaking to her.

This is the body language and eye contact of someone who is extremely confident and successful in dating.

Looking away first is a big sign of insecurity that women tend to pick up on.

In fact, having an awareness of the main signs of insecurity that women notice in men will be invaluable to you. Take a look at my infographic below for a helpful guide.

You can also read my full article here where I go into more depth on each of these negative traits and how to overcome themDating Coach For Men | 9 Signs Of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off


9 reasons why men can't build eye contact attraction with women


#4 – Adding A Seductive Voice


Let’s talk about the two techniques that you can use to understand the power of eye sex.

The first technique is to slow down your voice using an actor’s technique and it is brilliant.

So if you listen to any of my videos or podcasts you will know that I speak at a fairly fast pace most of the time. However, there are times when I will slow down my words to emphasise points.

The way in which I do this is by using my peripheral vision, and I will explain how this works.

When I look forward, I am 100% focused on what is in front of me. Likewise, you can also try this now by looking straight in front of you.


Use your peripheral vision to enhance your eye contact attraction.


I have a little bit of peripheral vision to the left, to the right, upwards and downwards. Now, what I can do to slow down my speaking pace is to put some of my attention on my peripheral vision.

This way when I am speaking I am not solely focussed on what I am saying. Half my attention is now, critically, on my peripheral vision.

The result is that I slow down my voice as my mental processing power is divided.

To speed up my words again I put my attention back onto what is immediately in front of me.

Conversely, I can slow down my voice again by relocating that attention back to my peripheral vision.


You are seducing a woman with the power of your voice and eye contact attraction.


Let us imagine you are talking to a girl that you like. You are both having a nice conversation; you then impactfully slow down your voice whilst looking directly in her eyes.

  • The first action is to slow down your voice by using your peripheral vision
  • You subsequently then keep your eye contact on her as you are speaking to her
  • This involves becoming more aware of your left, your right, the up or the down

Practice this eye contact and slowing down your voice at any point in conversation. It is powerful and will convey huge amounts of confidence.

Slowing down your voice and having seductive eye contact are two key traits that attractive men use when speaking to women.

In my infographic below I include some other techniques you can employ in your interactions with women to make you more attractive.

Read my article to learn more about each one, along with another 17 fun ways to flirt with women. Just click on the following link – How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways).


3 seduction techniques to use with women


#5 – The Upside Down Triangle


The upside-down triangle is when you flick your attention or gaze between her eyes and her mouth.

Often it can be really easy to just look away, look down, not pay attention to the girl in conversation.

So if you can flip between her left eye to her right eye down to her mouth, you are, in effect, creating a triangle with your gaze.

This enables you to hold a deep eye contact connection with her. Moreover, it also allows you to start building tension by holding permanent eye contact.

By creating tension with your eye contact you will:

  • Generate that surge of energy within her
  • Take her off auto pilot
  • Ensure she thinks about you after your interaction

The more that you will begin to build attraction with the girl that you are speaking to.

Eye contact attraction forms a vital part of a seduction.

As per the image below we can teach you modern seduction techniques. 

To find out more about our training then visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


Modern looking at camera next to three seduction techniques


Summary – Eye Contact Attraction


Here is an overview of the main points of eye contact attraction:

  • #1 – Read a woman’s eye contact: If she looks down she is interested in you. To the left and she is unsure. If she looks up and away she is showing disinterest.
  • #2 – When she plays with her hair while holding deep eye contact with you she is attracted to you.
  • #3 – Do not look away from women first because it conveys insecurity.
  • #4 – Add a seductive voice to create deeper eye contact attraction with women.
  • #5 – Use the upside-down triangle to create even more powerful eye contact attraction with women.

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