First Date Tips | Top Three Ways (That Make Her Want To See You Again)

First Date Tips | Top Three Ways (That Make Her Want To See You Again)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I am going to give you three first date tips that will make her want to see you again.

Before I tell you what to do on your first date, it is imperative that you understand how to set up the first date in a way that saves you a lot of pain, a lot of time, and a lot of effort.

  • You do this by organising the first date while you are in the presence of the girl that you like

The way that plays out is you are having a conversation face to face – and you organise to see each other again.

  • What you don’t do is say: “Oh, I’ll text you to organise it

Because that way you now have to try and get her calendar and your calendar in sync, and attempt to organise plans via text messaging.

There is also the added pressure of trying to keep a conversation going via text.

Endeavouring to make it interesting to keep her engaged until the date.

It is so much wasted time and effort.

How to set up the first date

So what you do while you are with her is you organise the date, time and meeting location: “I’m free next Thursday. Are you?”

Because then all you have to do is simply message her what you have both already agreed.

Additionally, if she has thought about it in her mind, she is much more likely to turn up for the first date with you.

Below I have included my infographic illustrating powerful techniques you can employ in your text messaging with women.

This will help you in organising that first date, and likewise, in keeping the connection fun and dynamic in organising any further dates.

You can click on the following link to read my article which gives more detail in how to use each texting techniqueHow To Text Women | Top Strategies (that every man needs to know).

11 text messaging strategies to help make her see you again after a first date

First Date Tips #1 – Share Different Experiences In Mini-Dates

The first date tip that I can give you is that when you are spending time with women, it is not about the amount of time that you spend together.

It is the experiences shared that will make a difference as to whether a girl becomes more comforted in your presence or not.

Therefore if you go on a first date, you may have just one experience, like going for cocktails. This represents one single experience that a woman will remember after your date.

Whereas if you are someone who understands the psychology of dating –  you may still go for cocktails. Yet you will also play pool, followed by a quick game of bowling while you are there.

This represents three mini-dates all rolled into one first date.

Rather than just having one date, you are sharing three experiences.

Critically, this formula can be used on any first date that you do together.

As another example of mini-dating, you go for a hike. However, you then stop in a nearby pub and go for a coffee or for lunch together.

Just remember to ensure when you are planning first dates, you have at least three different experiences as part of that date.

In effect, what this does is build the first foundations of trust. It allows her to experience what it is like to share three different memories with you as part of a very first date.

Accordingly, mini-dates will have a faster cumulative effect on your dating results.

As per the image below we can teach you how to connect with women when you are on your first date.

To find out more about our tuition then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.

Model with a light behind her and three ways to connect in conversation

First Date Tips #2 – Play the Questions Game

The second thing that you can do on the first date that will make her want to see you again is to play a game called The Questions Game.

I first played this game about seven years ago when I was doing a training course in Manchester.

It is called The Questions Game and has become a central point for a lot of guys all around the world on a first date.

It is very simple.

All you say to a girl is: “Do you want to play a fun game?”

The usual response to this is a resounding yes.

You: “There are three rules:

  • Rule one, I ask the first question
  • Rule two, you have to answer truthfully
  • And rule three, you get to ask me a question back, but it can’t be the same question again”

The game is very simple to play and has easy rules to follow.

It is important when you play this that you don’t stick to it all evening. Instead, it is effective as a kind of background game that you can play.

So you might introduce it after 10, 15 minutes.

What it does is allow you to start talking about different aspects of your life as part of a fun game.

Then what typically happens is you start giving more detail in your answers, and you begin to really talk about different areas of your life.

With the reassuring option of always going back to the game.

What you don’t want to do is just stick resolutely to the game – my question, your question etc.

That is not the intention.

Use it as a vehicle to get to know each other.

You want to ask a mix of both dating and emotional questions like:

  • “When did you last kiss someone?”
  • “If you wrote a book about your life, what would you call it?”
  • “What one piece of advice would you give to your grandson?”

See these types of emotional questions are very powerful and they will allow you to get to know each other better. The more you play the game, the more great questions women ask you.

Significantly, you can also remember those questions and ask other women when you meet them too.

So the Questions Game is great for a first date – it allows it to run a lot smoother.

My infographic below will also help you in your conversations on a first date. It illustrates how to successfully balance flirting and connecting with women.

I also recommend reading my related article before any first date. You can access it by clicking on the following link – How To Speak To Women | This Is What Makes Her Think About You.

How To Flirt With Women on a first date

First Date Tips #3 – Keep The Experiences And Energy Flowing

The final first date tip that will make her want to see you again is to keep the experiences flowing from one to the next; to keep the energy moving.

There is nothing worse than being on a date with a girl and you feel that moment when the energy goes and you don’t know what to do.

If you have planned your day effectively and you have your mini experiences in hand. As soon as you feel the energy might be about to go down, all you have to do is say:

“Right, let’s go.”

Then you move to the next part of your date.

This stops the date from becoming stale and stagnant.

Honestly, I cannot stress this enough. If you are on a date and you feel like the energy is dwindling, say:

Right, let’s go and do this.”

Simply stand up and physically move somewhere else.

The act of doing that will energise your interaction and lift the mood. Crucially, this all affects whether she will want to see you for a second date.

Having spatial intelligence – the skill of knowing when to move elsewhere to interject some energy into the interaction – is only one type of intelligence that will enhance your attractiveness around women.

Take a look at my infographic below as a snapshot on the other two types. It also serves as a good reminder to help you keep your dates lively.

You can also my full article to learn in more detail about the three types of intelligence you want to convey on any first date. Simply click the following link – How To Carry On A Conversation With Women | The Complete Guide.

3 ways to help you on a first date to carry on a conversation with women


The three first date tips that will make her want to see you again:

  • #1 – Remember it is not time spent together, it is the experiences shared that builds the first foundations of trust. So make sure you plan your dates; have at least three mini-dates on hand.
  • #2 – Play the questions game. As I mentioned play it, deviate from it, and go back to it. Use it as a vehicle to get to know each other.
  • #3 – Keep the experiences flowing. As soon as you feel the energy dropping, all you need to do is say, “Right, let’s go”. Then move on to the next part of your first date. When you put all these three together, she will want to see you again for a second date.

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