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How To Be Attractive To Women By Letting The Conversation Flow
How To Be Attractive To Women By Letting The Conversation Flow

How To Be Attractive To Women By Letting The Conversation Flow

Written by the Social Attraction Team

On our daygame courses I’ve noticed that when we are first conversing with women that we often interrupt the natural flow of the conversation.  Normally as soon as we are asked a few simple questions, we get flustered and before we know it the conversation turns dry, dull and boring.

I’ve found that a great way to solve this issue is to imagine a conversation with a woman to be like a flowing river – and the wider the banks are to the river then the more attractive we come across.

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So here are my top three ways to be more attractive to women in the first few minutes of a new interaction.

How To Be Attractive To Women #1: Don’t Block The River

So let’s take a question that most of us will normally be asked when we first meet a girl we like, such as:

“What do you do for a living?”

On our pick up artist courses we demonstrate that most of us would tend to take the fact that a woman is asking us a question as a good sign that she likes us and wants to find out more, so we answer her literally with such jobs as:

“I’m an accountant”

“’I’m into marketing”

“I’m a personal trainer”

Now the concern with answering these types of question in a literal way is that the woman will automatically put us into a specific category in their mind as they will likely have met someone before who engages in the same profession. It can also lead to a limited conversation.

So by answering the question directly we actually run the risk of putting an “obstruction” in the flow of the river; as women will more often than not ask us a question directly related to our answer, thereby limiting the flow of the conversation.  We teach on our pua training courses that in essence answering the question directly will automatically put a strain on the conversation as opposed to enhancing it.

How To Be Attractive To Women #2: Let The River Flow

So one effective way of answering that question (and to keep the river flowing) is to be intentionally vague about our jobs as this will require further probing questions from her and, as a result, increase the size of the river.

So in answer to:

“What do you do for a living?”

We can reply one of the following:

“What do you think I do for a living?”

“Guess?”

“I work with people, what do you do for a living?”

By being deliberately vague we keep the banks of the river wide and the interaction fun and interesting.

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How To Be Attractive To Women #3: The Power Of Stereotypes

Over time we have also found the use of stereotypes to work extremely well.  So, for example, a client of ours is a stock broker and when a girl asks him what he does for a living, he replies:

“Have you seen The Wolf of Wall Street?”

“Yes”

”That is what I do”

As you can imagine, this type of powerful stereotype creates a multitude of different images in the women’s head, thus opening up the banks of the river for a far more engaging conversation. Consequently, he gets a lot of questions after his statement, and it also helps to diminish his approach anxiety as he knows he’s interesting enough to hold a solid conversation.

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