How To Become An Attractive Man | Three Top Character Traits

How To Become An Attractive Man | Three Top Character Traits

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I am going to outline how to become an attractive man. I will be discussing what you can do in your life to create an attractive lifestyle.

This entails looking at your life and your lifestyle. Are you leading an attractive life where women want to be part of what you are doing?

I am going to explain three things that you can do that will allow you to start to become a more attractive man.

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Knowledge is power

The reason why you want to do this is that it is going to add to your conversation ammunition. And what do I mean by that?

I mean your ability to continue a conversation with women when you meet them. The more books that you read from different forms of literature.

The more things that you can talk to women about. Chances are they may have read some of the same books. If they haven’t you can talk about what you found exciting about the book.

You can talk about trends in literature from the areas that you like reading.

Reading also allows you to find role models in your life.

People that have done the things that you want to achieve have written about how to do it. Another additional bonus from reading is that it is an enriching form of escapism.

It allows you to access a new world the author has created and when you do that you find yourself intoxicated and in the moment. And the more you can do that, the more that you learn.

The more that you can speak to women about these things. The more charismatic you become, the better communicator you become.

And the more that you do that, the more that you will be able to continue a conversation with women.

A lot of guys really struggle after the first two minutes of talking to women. They have not refined the ability to speak about the stuff that they are reading and learning in their life.

So reading more books is definitely something that you can do that will make you a much more attractive man.

Self-expression is alluring

The second thing that you can do is to creatively self-express. This is extremely intoxicating to women.

If you can learn how to sing, play the piano, play the guitar, anything that you can do to self-express.

For example, set up a podcast if you like speaking. Write a blog if you like writing. Take photos if you like photography, but find a way in your life to creatively self-express, to take a blank canvas and to paint your picture in life.

Whether that is with your voice, whether it is from drawing or writing, it doesn’t matter.

The point is to do something in your life which is creative. When you do that, the energy starts to flow and you can talk to women about why you do that.

You can show them the things that you’ve created and that is an extremely attractive character trait.

If you think about world-famous musicians, any form of artists. Women are extremely attracted to this type of character because he is self-expressing; because he is creating.

He is taking a blank canvas and is putting his views on life down and that is ultra-attractive. It is something that attractive men do.

Culture enriches you

The final thing that you can do to become a more confident and attractive man is to travel more.

Not only travel more but actually do more things that the culture is known for when you go there. So when you go to new cities, go to their art galleries. Go on the walking tours, take in the experience of what it is like to live there and go there.

Again, by doing this, what you’re doing is adding to your conversation ammunition.

You are giving yourself the opportunity to talk about the experiences that you have had.

You can also use this as a form of creativity because you can take the experiences that you have had from your life. When you are travelling from your creativity and you can use that to self-express and talk about these things.

You can talk about the Prado art gallery that you visited when you were on holiday in Madrid. You can talk about what you did when you were in Stockholm.

The more you travel, the more things you see. The more many experiences that you have when you are in these places.

Therefore, the more conversation ammunition you are going to have when you are speaking to women.

The more you can express what you liked and disliked about the arenas in your life. This is an extremely powerful thing that a lot of attractive guys do.

When you are doing any of these three things you become a confident and more attractive man.

What you are looking at doing is leading a lifestyle that women want to be part of. Not the lifestyle where you are chasing women all the time.

The lifestyle where you are doing what you want to do with your life. And that means if you want to read a book for an hour, turning your phone off, not being so responsive and reactive to girls’ messaging all the time.

Turning your phone off. I am reading a book because I recognise that in the long term reading this book is going to give me way more value to my life, to every area than just simply sit down and replying to text messages.

Taking a longer-term approach to becoming a more attractive man will help you in so many different areas of your life.

Similarly with creative self-expression, just turn your phone off, turn the Internet off, do whatever you need to do to give yourself the time to express yourself.

To get your emotions out and to feel what it is like to get it off your chest.

Creation is one of my favourite things that I do in my life. It is such an amazing experience.

And finally, by travelling, when you are going away when you are an attractive guy going to these different places.

There are attractive women in the art galleries that you are going to. There are also attractive women that are travelling.

You can invite women along to these excursions. If you are a musician, you can invite them along to your gig. If you are a public speaker, you can invite them along to a speech.

The point is to become a confident and attractive man. You have to be leading a lifestyle that women will want to be a part of.

That starts by being dynamic, by using your time effectively and by working on your longer-term ambitions in your life.

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  • Start reading to add to your conversation ammunition.
  • Travelling is a way of experiencing new things and having different experiences to speak to women about.
  • Do not underestimate the benefits of creative self-expression.


Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is the bestselling author of An Education In (Online) Dating.

He has hosted over 1000 dating confidence courses in the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 courses conducted online.

Moreover, he is the head coach at Social Attraction and leads the team, training and courses.
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