How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

How To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

How To Flirt With Women #1: The Stone-Cold Eyes


In this article you will discover the ultimate guide to learning how to flirt with women, so let’s begin – When we meet new women we tend to have an autopilot response to either shake their hand or to kiss them on the check. Stone-cold eyes is a technique which we can utilise before our normal autopilot responses. We simply pause for 1-2 seconds and force eye contact with women before we greet them.

This method allows girls to become fully present and recognise that we are taking the lead in the interaction by making our presence felt right from the start. This technique is really saying “I’m here and you should pay attention to me.”

This principle is best employed to show off our confidence the very first time that we meet anyone new. It can be utilised with women in a dating scenario through to work interviews and social get-togethers.


How To Flirt With Women #2: The Prevailing Handshake


When we shake hands with women we tend to meet them halfway; so we both move our arms and greet each other in the middle. The prevailing handshake is a powerful way to show off our dynamism during an initial greeting by moving women closer to us rather than meeting them halfway.

The moment we clasp a girl’s hand we draw her closer to us rather than keeping a distinct level of distance. In the two images, we can see the moments before we draw women in closer to us via the use of our body language. When implemented correctly this technique comes across as a gracious greeting that gives off an air of confidence.

As with the stone-cold eye principle, this technique is best used the first time that we meet someone new; it can also be used in tandem to create a more impactful first impression.


How To Flirt With Women #3: The High Energy Principle


A high energy introduction allows us to show off a multitude of good attributes within the first few seconds of meeting women. The high energy principle is a method of greeting people that sub-communicates “I’m fun and I’m going to make your time with me enjoyable.”

When we put a lot of effort into smiling and offering a warm introduction it adds liveliness to the interaction. The more dynamism we use the more we are giving the girl a sense that we have good genetics, a lot of energy to expel and that we’re going to have fun together.

This technique is best used any time that we greet anyone; the more energy we expel the more important we make the individual feel; it’s like we are gifting them some of our vibes.


How To Flirt With Women #4: The Slow Motion Man


When we are around attractive women we tend to feel anxious and as a result, our adrenaline kicks in and we speed up our movements and speaking speed. The slow-motion man is a technique where we slow down our movements to make a powerful impact; it’s expressing “I’m in total control here and I’m not anxious.”

If we imagine the control a dancer possesses when he is leading a lady; we can replicate this by slowing down our own action when we sit down or take a sip of our drink.

This technique is best utilised any time we are making a body movement, so when we sit down we should retain total control of our body and not just fall, and similarly when we raise our glass to drink we can aim to take twice the amount of time.


How To Flirt With Women #5: The Firing Boss Method


One of the biggest differences we can make to our success with women is by the way that we sit; when we exhibit strong body language we tend to look and feel more powerful. The firing boss method is when we imagine that we are about to sack an employee and we are focussed and giving them our attention whilst knowing that we are in complete control and about to fire them.

When we are able to sit back, take up space and feel composed, all of a sudden we become more able to have better interactions with women. When we are holding back that we are about to fire them we also give off a strong air of confidence, mystery and power.

This technique is best used in every single context when we are sat down with women who we find attractive as well as work environments and all social settings.


How To Flirt With Women #6: The Tongue Sucking Technique


When we meet attractive women it’s normal to feel anxious and overwhelmed. This typically manifests itself with us speaking faster than usual and perhaps with a higher pitch. The tongue sucking technique can be utilised when instead of speaking, we internally suck our own tongue which prevents us from speaking.

To anyone observing us, it’s not apparent what we are doing, but this action will allow us to avoid speaking impulsively and without due consideration. If we are able to suck our tongue for 2 seconds after a girl has spoken whilst holding her eye contact it allows us to begin to start building sexual tension.

This technique is best used after a girl has spoken about a topic for more than 10 seconds; as it allows us to take in what she has just articulated.


How To Flirt With Women #7: The Secret Spy


It can be very easy to lose control of our body language when we are in dialogue with attractive women. If we are able to maintain a powerful posture then we come across as assured and relaxed in conversation. The secret spy technique is when we act like we have an ear-piece in, stand in a powerful and controlled way and act as if anything happens we can take control.

This pose command respect and allow women to feel relaxed in our presence as we are exuding an air of confidence. The more composed and confident we feel on the inside the more our confidence is noticed by women in our vicinity.

This technique is best used anytime that we are standing and talking to anyone; it allows us to feel commanding whilst also looking like we are in complete control of the situation.


How To Flirt With Women #8: The Hot Girl Walking Past


Often when we are attracted to women we tend to become too invested into the interaction; it’s as if they are the only person in the world who matters in that moment. The hot girl walking past method allows us to break the intensity of interaction by looking over “as if” an attractive woman is walking past; we simply glance over in her direction.

The beauty of this technique is that if the girl also glances over she’ll see nothing there and as a result will recognise that you decided to lead and break the intensity of the conversation.
It’s a principle which allows us to maintain our confidence in the interaction and not become too far embroiled into the nuances of the specific topic of discussion.

This technique is best used when we are having an in-depth conversation with a girl and wish to break the intensity so that we can lead the dialogue in a different direction.


How To Flirt With Women #9: The Date With Two Supermodels


When we first meet women it can be very easy to forget all of our plans for that moment as in our mind “talking to her is way more important.” The date with two supermodels technique allows us to be running 5 minutes late to an engagement already; meaning that any interaction that we are having is making us even later.

When we adopt this mindset we fully focus our mind on making the most impactful impression possible and as quickly as possible. Additionally, it allows us to take a girl’s number quickly and with more conviction. This method also reduces the initial anxiety of approaching new women as we know that we only have to invest a limited amount of our time in the interaction.

This technique can be adopted when we are meeting women during the day and wish to go in with a high energy approach; it also works well if we’re feeling tired.


How To Flirt With Women #10: The Hypnotic Three-way


Moving from a normal conversation to getting ready to kiss a girl can often prove to be a sticking point for many of us; especially if we are feeling anxious. The hypnotic triangle is a method which allows us to increase sexual tension with the woman we like whilst also keeping our anxiety levels low.

The technique involves flicking from holding her left eye in focus, to her right eye and then finally to her mouth. We keep this rotation going until we feel the sexual tension increasing. The best part of this principle is that from a girl’s perspective we are holding much stronger eye contact with her than most men that she meets on a day to day basis.

The ideal time to use this principle is when you like a girl and would like to increase the sexual tension between both of you before you kiss her. It’s also a great tool to use more generally you we struggle to hold eye contact with anyone in conversation.


How To Flirt With Women #11: The King of The Jungle Posture


Although we may not realise it; women tend to notice us before we approach and interact with them, and so our actions before we greet them are extremely pertinent to any first impression. The king of the jungle posture allows us to make our charisma felt before we engage new women in conversation.

The method involves posturing with our body language by sticking out our chest; this movement acts as a nonverbal sign of dominance. If done correctly it will trigger women to feel that they are around an attractive man with high levels of self-confidence.

This technique is best used as soon as we have seen an attractive girl that we would like to engage in conversation in any social environment. Seeing a lady we like should trigger our king of the jungle posture.


How To Flirt With Women #12: The High On Marijuana Method


Taking the necessary steps to physically escalate with women to the point of kissing them is wrought with potential problems. The high on marijuana method allows us to slow down our dialogue and hold strong eye contact with women which permit us to create sexual tension.

To engage in this technique correctly we need to assign a percentage of our attention away from the girl using our peripheral vision, whilst maintaining her eye contact. This principle inhibits our ability to think as fast, and as a result, we slow down our thoughts and our eye contact becomes more personal.

This principle is best used when we want to shift the energy of the interaction towards more intimate feelings which can lead up to the very first kiss.


How To Flirt With Women #13: The Investigative Journalist


Controlling the frame of an interaction allows us to lead the conversation into any direction of our choosing. The investigative journalist principle is a technique which allows us to shine the focus of any interaction firmly onto the girl, by challenging her thoughts and beliefs in conversation.

Whenever a girl offers an opinion on a topic of discussion, we respond with “So what you’re saying is…” The objective is to paraphrase her words like we are interviewing her for a news feature.

This principle can be utilised to rephrase what they are saying in a funny way or by tuning into the subtext of their words to connect with her at a deeper level. The aim is to offer a different type of conversation to keep the interaction fun and engaging.


How To Flirt With Women #14: The 10 Word Rule


Being able to have fun with women during our interactions shows a huge level of confidence. This is especially true when we are amusing ourselves throughout the interaction. The 10-word rule is a way of interrupting women in conversation to frustrate them to the point of inducing some mischievous tension into the conversation.

To implement the 10-word rule all we have to do is to interrupt what a girl is saying every 10 words. We simply ask them an irrelevant question or disrupt their thought processes. This technique is a way of flirting with women who we know are already attracted to us and is seen as a playful way of flirting.

This principle is best adopted when we are speaking with a girl 1-1 and we want to induce some fun energy into the interaction.


How To Flirt With Women #15: The Drunk & Falling Over Principle


Approaching women on the street can be a difficult task which consumes a lot of our energy, so it’s important to relax as quickly as possible when we enter into a new conversation. The drunk and falling over principle is a technique to remind ourselves that we have to lean against something or sit down before we literally fall over onto the floor.

All we have to do is to move together to a place where we can lean against an object or sit down to relax our posture. Once we are in this position we’ll notice that our nerves, as well as the girl’s, tend to subside so we can focus more on the conversation.

This principle is more of a mental ritual to remember that we need to relax as soon as possible when we meet new women by taking control of our body language.


How To Flirt With Women #16: The “Looking Up At Me” Method


Being physically tall is an attractive quality in men because it illuminates good genetics. The other notable consequence of being a tall man is that women are always looking up at them in conversation. The “looking up at me” method is when we place our self in a physically higher position than women so that they have to look up to us in dialogue.

It’s the same reason that kings sit on a throne and judges preside over a court, as it paints a picture of them being “above us” which is highly powerful. The archetypal image of power in artistic terms is almost always also conveyed via the use of stature; it appears to be inbred in our subconscious mind.

This technique is best used in any scenario where we are in dialogue with anyone where we wish to come across as confident and ”kingly”.


How To Flirt With Women #17: The Going Home Alone Technique


There are certain behaviours which are guaranteed to put women off and ultimately lead us to being left alone and solitary. The going home alone technique is where we give off signs that we are jealous, negative and insecure in conversation. It’s where we intentionally commit all of the most unattractive behaviours possible.

This principle becomes fun when it’s clear and obvious that we’re not really this type of man and in fact, are simply using the technique as a fun and intriguing role play. It’s the same way that if an “attractive girl” suddenly told us that no guy ever approaches her and she can never get a date, we would know that she was joking.

This technique is best used in high octane environments such as bars, nightclubs and big social engagements when we are in dialogue with a girl that we think is attracted to us as a person.


How to flirt with women *BONUS ARTICLE*


So in this episode, I’m going to give you three cast-iron ways of learning how to flirt with women, and also I’m going to include some detailed examples so that you’ll be able to implement them straight away.

Now the first way is by being mysterious with women. And you may have heard this before, but how do you actually become mysterious to women in a way that allows you to flirt with them? Because it can be very easy to try and be vague and to try and to answer women’s questions.

However, it can also go wrong very easily. So here’s what you need to do. If you imagine that you have 10 gold coins and every time you answer a woman’s question, you give away one of your gold coins. And those gold coins are your level of attraction. So all the time you have 10 you are this super attractive guy. Every time you answer her question, you lose one of your coins.


The reason why this is an effective flirting strategy is that if you imagine the difference between being a leader and a follower


You will notice that if you answer women’s questions directly, you are following her lead, which would make you a follower. Every time you do not answer her questions, you are not being a follower and therefore you are leading the interaction. The more that you can become a leader in your interactions, the more attractive you will be with women.

A few years ago, two clients came to my course. They were really good friends and I taught them this strategy of not answering women’s questions and they asked me the question, which I get asked all the time, but when do you go too far? At which point do you answer that question?

And I always replied the same thing. “Go out and try the principle. Do not believe that it won’t work or you’re not sure how to implement it. You need to get the referential experiences of doing it yourself to know where that barrier is.” So these two guys, they went out together that evening and on the course of following day they came and they were laughing and laughing and what they said is that this is the best thing they’ve ever learned in their life.


The reason is that when you are learning how to flirt with women and you go to a bar in the evening scenario, not answering women’s questions is really fun.


Especially when women ask you what your name is, you can make them guess or where you’re from and what you do for a living. Not answering their question is instantaneously flirting and it’s so easy to implement. You just don’t give away your coins.

So I said to them, how many coins did you give away? And one of them said, “I gave away two”. And the other one said, “I didn’t give away any”. And I said, “How did you find the process?” And he said:

“Well, it’s really interesting because you think that eventually, the girl would become disinterested and not talk to you anymore, but it’s not the case. The more and more I didn’t answer their questions, the more interested they became. It’s super interesting. I ended up sitting down and being completely relaxed and these girls were just plying me with more and more questions and it was fascinating. That’s the first time in my whole entire life where I felt in control of a dating interaction. I felt the power women must have felt when I used to talk to them. I felt like I was the person with the value and I felt like the person that was in control.”


All you have to do to learn how to flirt with women is implement this flirting strategy and imagine that you have 10 gold coins and you are not allowed to give them away


Now the second way that you can learn how to flirt with women is with alpha male eye contact. Now, what do I mean by alpha male eye contact? There are a few things that you need to understand to be able to implement this type of eye contact. Now, the first one is understanding that as you listen to this episode, if you face your head down, that is the body language of shame.

If you face your chin up, that is the body language of success and of confidence. So the first strategy you need to be able to implement is with your body language and you need to lift your chin slightly up and put your shoulders slightly back. What that does, it gives off a confident air of demeanour with your body language.

Now onto your eye contact. There are many different ways that you can hold eye contact with women, but when we’re talking about flirting with women, as soon as you meet them, I’m going to talk about when you first get eye contact with women and you want to flirt with them. The most effective way of doing this is to maintain prolonged eye contact with them and do not break eye contact first.


That is the first step in learning how to flirt with women with your eye contact.


You can practise as you walk down the street each day, holding eye contact with people and eventually you’ll have more confidence to hold and maintain eye contact with women. If you can hold prolonged eye contact so you first catch a woman’s gaze and you hold her eye contact until she looks away first. That is a very attractive and very flirty eye contact.

Now, the way in which you can make that even better is with alpha male eye contact. To be able to do that, all you have to do is narrow your eyes slightly. It’s ever such a different shift in your gaze, but as you listen to this, just close your eyes ever so slightly. Almost like you’re squinting.

When you first hold eye contact with women, if you can pull the alpha eye contact, what you’ll tend to notice is that women will look away quicker because you’re conveying severely strong signs of confidence and what will happen when women look away is typically within five to 10 seconds they will look back up at you again, which is another key indicator that you are flirting effectively with women.


Very powerful body language and eye contact movement to flirt with women.


Now the final way that you can flirt with women is by misinterpreting what they say. Now, most of us, most of the time when we’re talking to women, especially women that we find attractive, what we tend to do is to really listen to what they’re saying and try and engage them in conversation.

Now, something that you can do that is really fun is just to misinterpret what they’re saying. And an example of that, for example, I was in Budapest with one of my clients earlier on this year and we were talking to some girls that he liked and one of them said, “Oh yeah, I’ve got some cigars like that at my house.” And my client replied, “Thanks for the invite, but I’ve only just met you.”

As a really good example of misinterpreting what someone’s saying in a way that shows off that she’s hitting on you or that she’s trying to be flirty with you. These are really funny and if you are going to try and misinterpret what women say to be funny.


The easiest way of learning how to flirt with women in conversation is to misinterpret it like they’re hitting on you and that is a super successful way of flirting.


Something else that you can do just within the realms of misinterpreting, which is linked but not exactly the same. Say you’ve met a girl on a night out and her name is Stacy and she is from Kent. What you can do when you introduce her to one of your friends is you can say, “This is Tracy and she’s from Essex.”

You deliberately get her name wrong and where she’s from wrong on purpose as a way of being flirty. And what will happen when you get it right they’ll be an injection of laughter, the girl may give you a little hit on the shoulder because she’s been fun and playful.

You are deliberately getting her information wrong because it is funny.


The key thing about learning how to flirt with women is that not to take yourself so seriously, to be relaxed, to be playful, to be fun because the more playful you are, the more signals that you’re giving women that you are emotionally well.


It is very difficult when you are going through traumatic times in your life to be fun and relaxed. We’ve all had times in our life where we feel stressed and try and be fun, relaxed and playful when you’re stressed. You can’t. It’s literally impossible. So what you’re doing by using humour, by being flirty with women, you’re showcasing that you are in a good place in your life because you’re relaxed enough to have fun.

So as you listen to this, if you want to get better flirting with women, all you have to do is to implement one of the following three strategies, which I will recount now again to conclude the episode. The first way is to imagine that you have 10 gold coins and every time you give a gold coin away by answering a woman’s question, you lose a level of attraction.

Quite simply, if you do not answer women’s questions directly, you will be flirting as soon as you meet them. The second way you can do it is with alpha male eye-contact. Step one is learning how to maintain eye contact with women so that they break it first. Step two is to squint slightly and hold eye contact as a really strong and confident eye-contact hold with women. And the third one is by deliberately misinterpreting what they’re saying as a way of showing that they are indeed hitting on you. Now, these three techniques I teach on my live training courses, they are the best of the best. Go out and enjoy them and have some fun flirting with women.


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