How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually | The Comprehensive Guide

How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually | The Comprehensive Guide

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I am going to outline how to make a woman want you sexually.

I will be covering the following:

  • Firstly, I will explain one of the primary principles of evolutionary psychology so you can understand what makes a woman sexually attracted to you
  • Secondly, I will show you how to use emotion to build trust which can then lead to intimacy
  • Finally, I will explain the benefits of living a tantra lifestyle, which is sexually alluring to women

Having an understanding of these three factors will help you to become more sexually attractive to women in your dating life.


What sexually attracts a woman to a man?


We should all be aware of Charles Darwin’s Natural Selection Theory, which he outlined in 1859 in his book titled On the Origin of the Species.

In this manuscript, Darwin put forward his Natural Selection Theory. In short, he proved that the species that are most adaptable to change are most likely to make it through to the next generation.

This is Charles Darwin’s first theory, Natural Selection.

Darwin also explained a second theory called Sexual Selection Theory.

Sexual Selection Theory

In this particular theory, Darwin believed that we are competing within our own species for a member of the opposite sex with the highest potential biological advantage.

As a result:

  • Males are competing with each other for the highest value female
  • Likewise, females are competing with each other for the highest value male

We can observe this phenomenon when examining other animals.

However, when we apply the theory to human beings, it becomes more complicated. This is because there is a broader scope for variation between humans.

What do men find attractive in women?

Attributes that men tend to find instantly attractive in women include:

  • Physical beauty
  • Hip to waist ratio
  • Facial symmetry

What do women find attractive in men?

Attributes that women tend to find instantly attractive in men include:

  • Intelligence
  • Physical size
  • Social status

My infographic below outlines the ten traits that a woman first notices in a man. You can also read the full article here – First 10 Things A Woman Notices About A Man | A Modern Guide


10 characteristics that a woman reviews in any potential partner


How do you trigger sexual attraction?


Darwin believed that human beings developed different types of intelligence to convey their genetics.

The first (and perhaps obvious) characteristic is being physically big and strong.

If you are a big and muscular guy you are conveying that you are able to protect and provide for a partner, as well as any potential offspring.

Accordingly, being physically big and strong is sexually attractive to many women as it reflects strong genetics.

Not all women, but a vast majority of women are attracted to that characteristic sexually.

Sexually alluring qualities in a man

Let’s look at a few other traits, such as intelligence for example.

  • Are you smart?
  • Have you created wealth in your life?
  • Are you able to show emotional understanding?

All of these aspects demonstrate intelligence. This again showcases to a woman or potential mate that you have good genetics.

Taking risks is another attractive quality to women. It highlights that a family can depend on you to take a decisive risk when needed for their survival.

The image below is taken from a video interview conducted for the 100th episode of my podcast.

Here I discuss various other attributes that are attractive to women and how to lead an attractive lifestyle. 

The video is over 90-minutes long so feel free to save the link and watch at a convenient time – Dating Coach For Men | An Education In Gary Gunn | Full Length Interview In HD


Gary Gunn being interviewed by Marc Cobbs for his 100th podcast episode


How to enhance your attractive qualities to women?


On my dating confidence courses, we go through each of these characteristics.

We then proceed to teach you how to convey these qualities during a natural everyday conversation.

So, in the same way, that a physically big and strong person shows off their genetics, you can achieve the same via conversation.

Therefore, having an understanding of Charles Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory gives you an advantage over other men:

  • You know what to convey in conversation to generate a sexual response in a woman
  • It offers guidance on how to live your life to become more sexually attractive to women

In short, you become more sexually attractive to women by showcasing virtues that are biologically attractive.

This is a big topic.

So, below you will see an image from a course I hosted on storytelling to women. In this 100 minute course, you will learn how to convey your most attractive attributes to women through the use of stories.

You can watch the full video here – The Art Of Telling Stories To Women | Gary Gunn | Full Length HD


Dating coach for men Gary Gunn teaching how to tell stories at a confidence course


How to make a woman sexually attracted to you via emotion?


Once a woman wants you sexually, the next thing you need to do is create the first foundations of trust if you want to progress the relationship.

You can do this by demonstrating empathy.

This means enabling a woman to recognize that you understand her view of the world.

To demonstrate empathy simply reflect back what a woman says to you in a succinct phrase.

You will know when you get this right because the girl will nod her head and say “yes” as she feels understood (more on this later).

How does an emotional connection build sexual attraction?

Demonstrating empathy enhances sexual chemistry because it:

  • Helps convey your emotional intelligence
  • Allows a woman to feel connected with you
  • Shows that you are putting effort into the relationship.

For more guidance on how to demonstrate empathy with women, see my infographic underneath.

You can also read the whole article here – How To Connect With Women | The Ultimate Guide (top 5 ways).


5 ways to demonstrate empathy with women


How to be more desirable to women?


The final way to allow a woman to want you sexually is to live a tantra lifestyle.

In a nutshell, tantra was developed by Buddha’s great-grandson, Saraha.

Saraha found that he could not reach enlightenment through the same means as Buddha.

Instead, when he was seduced by a woman, he realised that he could find enlightenment in the letting go and being spontaneous in the moment.

Qualities that make a woman more sexually interested in you

In this manner, the whole tantra experience is about becoming spontaneous and fun around women.

Consequently, incorporating Tantra principles into your dating life will make you more seductive as:

  • Spontaneity is alluring
  • Being fun is flirtatious
  • Risk-takers are captivating by their nature

These are all part of the tantra lifestyle and are highly attractive to women.

Furthermore, once you become more attractive to women you will start to see clear go-ahead signals. On my dating confidence courses, I teach you how to progress your relationships with women.

As per the image below we can train you in how to read a woman’s go-ahead signals. 

To find out more about our training then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


A model with three ways to read her go-ahead signals


How to make a woman want you sexually – Summary


The main points of how to make a woman want you sexually:

  • #1 – Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory. We are all competing for the highest possible mate of the opposite sex. Three characteristics women find attractive: being physically big and strong, having intelligence and being a risk-taker.
  • #2 – Enhance emotional connection. Demonstrate intelligence by showing a woman that you understand her view of the world. This removes potential barriers in her mind that may prevent her from forming a sexual relationship with you.
  • #3 – Live a tantra lifestyle. Adopting tantra principles such as being spontaneous, fun and a risk-taker will make you more sexually alluring to women. This light-hearted outlook will allow you more freedom in your dating life.

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