How To Manage Our Emotions By Taking Control
I remember a night out I had a few years ago which turned out to be a total disaster. It was all triggered by a single interaction at the start of the night when someone was rude to me and I couldn’t understand why.
The next day, when I had time to reflect, I thought about how I could have handled it differently. As a result the next time a similar situation occurred, I knew exactly what to do as this is now something which we teach on our daygame coaching courses.
As a direct result from keeping my reflective journal, I have developed three simple ways that we can manage our emotions in social environments by simply taking control.
How To Manage Our Emotions #1: The Art Of Storytelling
There is nothing more frustrating and distracting then when we are telling a story and we keep getting interrupted by someone who is asking us a magnitude of irrelevant questions. Such as mundane minor details or even enquiries which are completely off-topic.
We teach on our dating coach courses that if we don’t address this right at the start it’s likely to distort the flow of the story and more importantly the flow of our night.
So now, when I’m telling a story and someone interrupts my flow, I’ll say any one of the following:
“Hold on – questions at the end”
“I’ll get to that”
“If you keep interrupting me then I won’t get to the of the story”
The end result is that by telling our own story, in our own way, listeners feel more present, engaged and absorbed.
How To Manage Our Emotions #2: The Calming Effect
On our pick up artist courses we explain that when someone is rude to us it can be very easy to get emotional ourselves and react by saying something blunt or undignified.
Over time, I have found that the best way to handle this is to say the opposite of what they’d expect something like:
“You’re cute when you get angry”
“Wow you’re positive today”
In my experience, when we react in a calm manner it serves to completely defuse the tension and usually gets a smile, laugh or a playful punch on the arm.
How To Manage Our Emotions #3: The Power To Walk Away
Nowadays my mindset when I start a new interaction is that if my presence isn’t welcome, I’ll either not finish what I’m saying or I’ll quickly walk away.
What is interesting about adopting this mindset is that because I’m willing to leave the interaction at any time, because I’ve put a value on my presence, pretty well all of my interactions run smoothly. As you can imagine this prevents a wealth of negative emotions from even entering into the arena of my mind.
In a nutshell, by putting a value on ourselves and defining what is acceptable social etiquette, we instantly because more attractive on our journey of learning how to attract women.
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