How To Start Conversations With Women
One of the first principles that we teach on pua training courses is how to start conversations with women in a fun, light-hearted way and with the lowest possible risk of rejection.
Over the years we have found that, by far and away, the best way to engage with women is to get their opinion about a particular subject. Not only does this make it easier for us to start an interaction, it takes the pressure off her and also allows us to engage her friends at the same time.
How To Start Conversations With Women #1: Be Inquisitive
In reality we could ask her anything, but time and again I’ve found that the best reactions come from something spontaneous that we are genuinely inquisitive about.
So if we are having a conversation with our friends which involves giving an opinion about a topic, why not find out what a few other people nearby think?
For example it was Valentine’s Day last Saturday, and whilst hosting a daygame coaching course we used this as a great way to see what women really thought of the occasion.
How To Start Conversations With Women #2: Proximity
Instead of walking halfway across the bar, it is much more natural and congruent to ask people who are standing or sitting near us. If we do, however, see a girl we want to talk to who isn’t close by, we can improve our chances by getting proximity first, before finding out what she thinks.
This can be done in several different ways including stopping to talk to her and her friends as we are walking to the bar or toilet, or even starting a conversation with other groups and then making our way over to their group.
We have found that if we really want to talk to someone enough then there is always a way to make it happen in a fun, congruent and natural way. This also focuses our minds away from any approach anxiety and makes us relaxed enough to start a new interaction.
How To Start Conversations With Women #3: Body Language
We teach on our dating coach courses that our body language is incredibly important and we often overlook its importance in the few seconds of interacting with a new group of men and women.
For example simple body language poses such as keeping our feet and body pointing away while turning with only our head towards the group will help them feel much more comfortable, relaxed and receptive to our question.
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