How To Save Money Dating | A Step-By-Step Guide (top 5 ways)

How To Save Money Dating | A Step-By-Step Guide (top 5 ways)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I am going to show you how to save money dating, in fact, a total of £43,200 over a ten year period.

Yes, that’s right, £43,200.

And the best thing about what I am about to teach you is that if you implement the strategies, not only will you save money, but your dating results will increase exponentially.


How To Save Money Dating Women #1 – Be Mindful Of Your Compound Spend


Let’s assume that you are single and that you are going out two nights a week. You are going to bars and going to places where you can meet women.

Now the average drink costs between say £5 to £15. So we can average that out at £10 a drink.

Most guys, most of the time, would probably buy roughly three drinks for women throughout an evening.

If we average that out to three drinks two nights a week and do the math.


That is spending £60 simply in buying drinks on nights out to speak to women.


If you multiply that by four to look at the monthly cost. You are looking at spending £240 a month buying girls’ drinks.

If you look at that over a year, you have advanced into the £2,880 a year mark.

Indeed, if you are single for about a 10 year period, spending between £20 and £40 on an evening out. Then over that time, you are going to spend a staggering £28,800 buying drinks for women.

We will come back to the expenditure on drinks later, but for now, let’s consider the cost of going out for dinner.

Let’s say for argument’s sake that you take a girl out for dinner two nights a month – in reality, if you are actively dating, many guys do it far more than that.

So the average male is spending £60 on a meal for two. You do that twice a month and your cost is £120.

Over a year this adds up to £1,440.

And if you look at that over a 10 year period, it’s £14,400 spent in taking women out for dinner.


If we add those two numbers together (drinks and dinners out), we get to a colossal £43,200.


That is a vast amount of money.

In my infographic below I have given tips aimed at helping those who want to get back into dating.

However, a number of these suggestions can be used to anyone who wants to meet more women outside of the usual bar times.

I would recommend reading my article here for more detail – How To Get Back Into Dating | The Ultimate Guide (Top 15 Ways).


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How To Save Money Dating Women #2 – Refrain From Buying Drinks


Most guys are so overjoyed to be in an interaction with an attractive girl that they are more than happy at investing money on buying a drink…

Which is what you are doing.

You are investing money to allow that girl to spend more time with you.

Let’s pause and think about that logically.

  • In effect, you are paying the value of a drink in exchange for a girl to spend more time with you.
  • However, if a girl likes you and is invested in you anyway, whether or not you buy her a drink is not going to make any difference whatsoever.

In buying girls drinks when you first meet them, you are being submissive.


You are saying: “Oh, here’s my money. Here’s what I can do for you to spend more time with me”

This is a highly unattractive trait.

You hear a lot of information online about guys being protectors and guys being providers for women. Yes, that is an important aspect of being a confident and attractive man.

At the same point, when he first meets a girl, the confident and attractive man does not become submissive instantaneously.

There is nothing wrong with investing in your dating interactions once you get to know a woman.

However, in first meeting a girl in a bar situation on a night out, many guys are far too quick to buy women drinks.

In doing this it:

  • Shows you are not used to being around attractive women
  • Highlights insecurity
  • Portrays you as submissive

If you simply refrain from buying women drinks on nights out over the next 10 years, you will save more than £28,000.

In addition to that, your dating interactions will be better.

As per the image below we can coach you how to flirt with women so you do not need to spend money on buying drinks.

To find out more about our coaching then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men


Model next to three ways to flirt with women


How To Save Money Dating Women #3 – Be A More Engaging Conversationalist


That awkward moment when you or the girl has finished her drink and you feel compelled to buy her another drink; that is the crucial moment where you do not cave.

Do not suddenly think, “Oh, she’s run out of her drink. I need to get her another one.”

Remember she is on a night out; she is earning her own money; she is in a situation when she can pay for her own drinks.

If you fall into the trap of rushing to buy drink after drink you will find is that, yes, girls may spend more time with you.

However, at the end of it, they will not be attracted to you, because you are the type of guy who simply spends money to try and get people to like him.

This is highly unattractive.


By not buying women drinks, you will find out how good you really are interacting with women.


In truth, you don’t find out about yourself until you stop buying women drinks because then it is on even ground.

You cease relying on buying drinks as a prop to keep a conversation going.

This will notably illuminate the communication skills that you can look to develop including:

  • Being mysterious
  • Becoming more engaging
  • The ability to continue a conversation

In general, having good conversation ammunition that will improve who you are as a person.


The girl is invested in speaking to you because of who you are.


In contrast, if you are the guy buying all the drinks, you are making it very easy for girls to spend time with you.  Yet that time is being invested pointlessly.

To be more engaging, fun and memorable straightaway in your conversations with women, please see my infographic below. This corresponds with my article – How To Speak To Women | This Is What Makes Her Think About You.


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How To Save Money Dating Women #4 – Avoid Going For Dinner


If you are taking women out for a date every two weeks, across 10 years, that is going to cost you over £14,000.

This is a huge investment not only financially, but also with your time and the girl’s time.

Additionally, bear in mind that a lot of people don’t feel comfortable sitting down and eating in front of someone else. This is particularly true if it is someone they do not know very well.

Therefore if you are the type of guy that is actively trying to get a woman to go out for dinner with you, you may find that you will get a lot of flakes.


Because many girls will not want to commit to a dinner date.


So if you can avoid that scenario, firstly, you will make it easier for women to say yes to come on a date with you.

Secondly, instead of going out for dinner, that investment of £60 could easily be used elsewhere.

Another important point to remember is that your dating results will not go up off the back of this spending.

You do not want to willingly be that guy who spends lots of money unnecessarily, especially when it is detrimental to your dating results.

There is no law written in stone that you have to take a girl out for dinner.


Instead, share more dynamic dating experiences.


One immediate remedy is to actively date outside of the main eating times, so you can meet someone and say:

“I’ll meet you after lunch, or I’ll meet you before dinner, or let’s meet after dinner.

Therefore rather than sitting down over a formal meal eating opposite one other, you will have:

  • More engaging dates
  • Memorable shared experiences
  • Relaxed dating interactions

You will find yourself being more dynamic, having more fun and, importantly, saving more money.

My infographic below will give you some invaluable ways to help build attraction with a girl that you will make her want to see you again for a second date.

Click on the following link to read my related article – Seduction Techniques | How To Get Women To Think About You Non-Stop.


5 ways to save you money dating by seducing women to think about you non stop


How To Save Money Dating Women #5 – Learn To Mini-Date Instead


So if you are going to go on a date, you can meet the girl in the afternoon, after dinner, or before dinner.

You can look at having more engaging dates in London for example.

There are so many free things to do including:

  • Art galleries, museums
  • Walking tours
  • Grabbing a coffee
  • Going for a walk in a park.

And these things do not cost you anything.

They also embody experiences that are more participatory and are more fun.


Doing something experiential together builds trust, comfort, and connection.


So next time you are in a bar and you are speaking to a girl you have just met. You are about to say: “Can I get you a drink?

  • Stop and remember that it is not only going to cost you the value of that drink
  • It is also going to cost you a cumulative £28,800 over the next 10 years

Furthermore, I can guarantee you it will make no difference at all to your ability to date the girl that you are about to buy a drink for.

As per the image below we can teach you how to stop chasing women by spending too much money.

To find out more about our coaching then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


Model next to three ways to stop chasing women


How To Save Money Dating Women – Summary


To quickly sum up how to save money dating:

  • #1 – Be mindful of your compound spend. This is the amount of money spent on dates throughout an evening, a week, a month and years. It can accumulate to a whopping £43,200 over ten years.
  • #2 – Refrain from buying drinks when you first meet a girl. Stop investing money to ensure she spends time with you. It highlights insecurity and submissiveness.
  • #3 – Be a more engaging conversationalist. Improve your conversation ammunition and learn to be more dynamic, engaging and mysterious in conversation. This is far more attractive.
  • #4 – Avoid going for dinner. It is too formal and high an investment for many women to commit to in advance. Instead, plan dates outside of the main eating times; “I’ll meet you after lunch, or I’ll meet you before dinner, or let’s meet after dinner.
  • #5 – Learn to mini-date instead. Consider experiences you can do for free, like walking tours, art galleries or museums. Or even grabbing a coffee or going for a walk in a park. It makes a more memorable and engaging date that will build trust and a connection.

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