Signs She Wants To Be Approached | The Five Clear Go-Ahead Signals

Signs She Wants To Be Approached | The Five Clear Go-Ahead Signals

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I will go through the key signs she wants to be approached.

This will help you to recognise when a woman is interested and receptive to speaking to you from an evolutionary psychology perspective.

To further help you, I will also describe the main signals that a woman gives you when she does not want you to initiate contact with her.

In all likelihood, the reason for this could be because you are showcasing biologically unattractive character traits.

Specifically, I will outline the following:

  • Her mannerisms and body language which indicate that she wants you to approach her and start a conversation
  • The visible characteristics and signs when she is not interested and does not want to be approached by you

Having an awareness of these positive and negative signs will save you time, effort, energy and rejection in your dating interactions.


Obvious signs she wants to be approached?


Two of the most obvious signs that she wants to be approached by you is with her initial eye contact and her smile.

In fact, the smile is a great way a girl can give you to make it clear that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.

Accordingly, if she:

  • Makes eye contact with you and smiles then you can take these as warm signs of potential interest.
  • If she then looks down, away, and then looks back at you and smiles, she is giving you a signal to approach her.

Obvious signs she does not want to be approached?


Take a moment here to imagine the opposite body language when a woman does not want you to speak to her:

  • She does not smile
  • Looks immediately away
  • Has no interest in meeting your gaze

I have filmed many different YouTube videos on eye-contact with women. Below you will see an image from a course I hosted in London on how to approach women.

In the following video, I outline what to do when you get eye contact from a woman that you would like to speak to. The video is 3 minutes long and you can watch it here – How To Approach Women | The Pulsating Point


Gary Gunn with a model on a dating confidence course on how to recognise signs she wants to be approached


How To Read Body Language Signs That She Wants To Be Approached?


Eye contact and smiling are signs of potential attraction.

If she looks down with her eye-contact and then backs at you within 30 seconds, in my experience, there is some level of attraction towards you.

Therefore when we:

  • Notice eye contact
  • Gain an obvious smile
  • Receive repeated eye contact

These are clear go-ahead signs that she wants you to approach her.


What should I do if a woman makes eye contact and smiles?


When you first catch a woman’s attention, hold her eye contact and observe what she does.

If she:

  • Makes eye contact
  • Smiles
  • Looks down
  • Glances away
  • And then looks back

These are the sequential steps that signify attraction.

From her point of view, if you are still looking at her when she looks back at you, she knows that you are likewise attracted to her.

Therefore, it is important that you also maintain her eye contact while she looks down, away, and finally back at you. This way, both of you know that there is a mutual level of attraction before you initiate a conversation.

My infographic below portrays an even deeper level of eye contact.

To learn how to implement this read my corresponding article here – Eye Contact Attraction | The Power Of Eye Sex (what you need to know).


Seductive eye contact to use to approach and attract women


Signs a shy girl wants to be approached?


The second key sign she wants you to approach and speak to her is when she gets proximity with you.

In effect, this means she gets physically close enough to you so that you can start a conversation with her if you wanted to.

Women who are more reserved or shy will not want to commence a conversation with you directly.

Instead, they would prefer you to initiate contact with them and will often move closer to make it easier for you.

How to recognise when she is getting proximity with you?

The following are examples of when a girl is getting proximity with you and she wants you to speak to her:

  • When she chooses a yoga mat close to yours when there are 10 other empty yoga mats available
  • In a cafe, she sits at the table next to you rather than the free table on the other side of the room
  • If you are in a bar or social setting and she sits very closeby or at the barstool next to you

By being aware of when a woman has a choice of where to sit or where to stand, and she chooses to get physically close enough to you, is significant.

It will help you to recognise when she wants you to start a conversation with her.

How to recognise when she is not getting proximity with you?

In contrast, if we take a moment to consider the opposite of these scenarios:

  • She stands 15 metres away
  • She moves further away from you
  • Or she sits and faces away from where you are seated

You can take these as signs that she doesn’t want you to talk to her.

In short, there is no attraction there.

As per the image below we can teach you the female signs of sexual attraction.

To find out more about our training then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


Model standing next to three signs of sexual attraction given when she wants to be approached


Signs she wants you to make a move?


One of the key signs she wants to be approached is when she is making more noise than normal.

For example, she displays the following:

  • Laughs more
  • Dances exaggeratedly
  • Flicks or plays with her hair

Look out for exaggerated aspects or movements from her. These indicate that she is trying to get your attention.

Signs of interest in you

If she is with her friends and, all of a sudden, she is making bigger body language movements.

You can then look out for the other signs that I mentioned earlier, like eye contact and smiling.

In other words, a cluster of body language movements that she gives you as a signpost that she wants to be approached.

As a general rule, if she is laughing louder or making more noise, she is signalling that she wants your attention.

How to act on her signs of interest

Once you start a conversation with a woman it is important to demonstrate intelligence during your initial conversation if you wish to progress the relationship.

This is why I have designed the infographic below to make sure you are competent in conversation with women.

You can read my corresponding article here – How To Carry On A Conversation With Women | The Complete Guide


Signs she wants to be approached and have a long conversation


Signs a girl wants you to notice her?


Another sign she wants you to start a conversation with her is when she plays with her hair and holds prolonged eye contact with you.

This is one of the main signs that she is attracted to you and would like you to approach her and initiate contact.

Similarly to men, women will feel a surge of energy when they are attracted to someone. Typically a woman will play with her hair or adjust her clothing to diminish that feeling of excitement.

Flirtatious signs to get your attention

If she wants to make it abundantly clear that she would like you to talk to her, she will also hold eye contact with you at the same time as playing with her hair.

Often she may not even be aware she is doing it.

You may look around and you will see her looking at you and playing with her hair. Then she might just all of a sudden jump nervously and look away.

That is a really big indicator that she would like to be approached by you.

For anyone who wants to learn some fun and easy ways to approach a girl you find attractive, then look at my infographic underneath.

The full article is also available here to read here – How To Approach Women | The Ultimate Guide (with illustrations)


9 ways to approach women and initiate flirting


Signs a girl wants you to talk to her? 


The final key sign that she wants you to approach and talk to her is with her body language.

By the way that a woman directs her shoulders and her body, we can discover if she is giving off signs that she wants to be approached.

  • Body language facing away from you

If you can imagine the body position of someone who wants to get away quickly from a situation.

Their body language would be facing away from the other person, so they could potentially walk or run away if they sensed a threat.

Their legs will be uncrossed and their posture is of someone who does not want to remain in that moment.

  • Body language facing towards you

However, the body position of someone with shoulders locked in, or their legs crossed, demonstrates contentment in remaining where they are.

This is a really big indicator that she wants you to approach her, or remain speaking to her.

Remember:

  • If she sits with her legs crossed towards you
  • Or she stands with one leg crossed over the other

Combined with the other gestures of eye contact, smiling and hair playing, she is giving you a clear go-ahead signal that she wants you to approach and speak to her.

In my experience, I know that it can be difficult to approach women that you find attractive. As per the image below we can teach you how to do this.

To find out more about our coaching click on the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.


Model looking at camera with three ways for men to act on a women's signs when she wants to be approached


Summary


Signs a girl wants you to approach her:

  • #1 – She looks at you, smiles, looks away, and then looks back at you
  • #2 – She gets proximity with you, so she has a choice on where to stand or where to sit and she decides to stand or sit very close to you
  • #3 – She makes exaggerated body movements; laughing, smiling or dancing to get your attention
  • #4 – She plays with her hair while looking at you with prolonged eye contact
  • #5 – She sits or stands with her shoulders facing towards you or one leg crossed over the other

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