Signs She Wants To Be Approached | The Ultimate Guide (updated 2021)

Signs She Wants To Be Approached | The Ultimate Guide (updated 2021)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article you will learn the key signs she wants to be approached. This will help you to recognise when a woman is interested and receptive to speaking to you.

You will discover:

  • How to read women’s eye contact signals (fast)
  • Body language signals of attraction (to look out for)
  • How to discern signs of disinterest (to avoid embarrassment)

To save you time understanding women’s signs, I have not gone into the psychology of attraction. I have, however, included some links in the article so you can read the science behind the signals.


Obvious signs she wants to be approached?


The two most obvious signs that a woman wants to be approached by you is with her initial eye contact and her smile.

In fact, the smile is a great way a woman can make it clear that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.

Without getting into evolutionary psychology, if a woman makes eye contact with you and smiles then you can take these as warm signs of potential interest.

Eye contact and smiling

If she subsequently looks down, then away, before looking back at you and smiling, she is giving you a signal to approach her.

I have designed the following infographic as a guide for you to know how to approach women once they give you clear go-ahead signals.

To learn more about how to implement each technique you should read my how to approach women article.


9 ways to help you act on her signs she wants to be approached


Obvious signs she does not want to be approached?


The most obvious sign that a woman does not want to be approached is when she adopts closed body language.

Here are some examples of closed body language after you catch a woman’s eye contact:

  • She does not smile
  • Looks up and away
  • Folds her arms

These three signs make it clear that a woman does not find you instantly attractive.

I have created the following infographic to help you discover how to be more attractive to women. You can also read my how to attract women instantly full guide.


Three different ways to attract women instantly


What should I do if a woman makes eye contact and smiles?


If a woman makes eye contact with you and smiles then she is showcasing that she is receptive to speaking to you.

If you want to know whether she is sexually attracted to you, then look out for the following:

  • She makes eye contact
  • Smiles
  • Looks down
  • Glances away
  • And then looks back at you

These are the sequential steps that signify sexual attraction between a woman and a man.

Mutual attraction

Therefore it is important that you also maintain her eye contact while she looks down, away, and finally back at you.

This way both of you know that there is a mutual level of attraction before you initiate a conversation. Moreover, this will also give you the confidence to take action.

My infographic below portrays an even deeper level of eye contact that you can use in your interactions with women. To learn how to implement this read my eye contact attraction article.


Seductive eye contact to use when acting on her signs she wants to be approached


Signs a shy girl wants to be approached?


If a girl is feeling shy but wants you to approach and speak to her then she may get proximity with you.

In effect, this means she gets physically closer to you as it is preferable to her for you to initiate the contact rather than the other way around.

If we take a moment to consider the following scenarios:

  • A woman stands 10 metres away from you
  • Or she sits and faces away from where you are seated
  • She sits at a cafe table on the other side of the room rather than at the free table next to you

These are signs that a woman does not want you to talk to her. In short, there is no attraction there.

Getting proximity

In contrast, the following are examples of when a girl is getting proximity with you and she wants you to speak to her:

  • She chooses a yoga mat close to yours when there are 10 other empty yoga mats available
  • She sits at the cafe table next to you rather than the free table on the other side of the room
  • Or she sits closeby or even at the barstool next to you

Being aware of when a woman chooses to get physically close enough to you is significant. It will help you to recognise when she wants you to start a conversation with her.

Naturally attractive men

Men who are successful in their dating lives often have women approaching them and starting a conversation.

I have created the following infographic as a guide outlining the type of men who are naturally attractive to women.

You can also read my how to seduce women guide where you can learn more about each of these male archetypes.


The 5 male archetypes that attract women


Signs she wants you to make a move?


One of the most obvious signs a woman gives when she wants you to make a move is exaggerating her body language to try and get your attention.

For example, she displays the following:

  • Laughs more
  • Dances exaggeratedly
  • Flicks or plays with her hair

I recall teaching this to a 25-year old client in Edinburgh four years ago. He was in great physical condition and had women hitting on him all the time. The issue was that he did not know they were sexually attracted to him. In other words, he was not able to read women’s go-ahead signals. Once I showed him these three signs he went on a rampage of getting girl’s numbers and organising dates. Often we sort of know when a girl likes us but are unsure how to act on it; what I did here was give my client absolute confidence to take the next steps without fear of rejection or embarrassment.

Signs of interest

If a woman is with her friends and, all of a sudden, she is making bigger body language movements. You can then look out for the other signs that I mentioned earlier, like eye contact and smiling.

That is to say, a cluster of body language movements that she gives as a signpost that she wants you to approach her.

As a general rule, if she is laughing louder or making more noise, she is signalling that she wants your attention.

Speaking to women

Once you start a conversation with a woman it is important to have some depth if you wish to progress the relationship.

This is why I have designed the infographic below to make sure you are competent in conversation with women.

You should also read my how to speak to women article to learn more about conversation techniques.


5 conversational techniques that will make her remember you


Signs a girl wants you to talk to her?


The main sign that a girl will give you that she wants you to talk to her is with her body language.

By the way that a woman directs her shoulders and her body, you can discover whether she wants you to initiate a conversation with her.

Open and towards you is a good sign, whereas closed and away from you is a bad sign.

  • Turned off body language

If you can imagine the body position of someone who wants to get away quickly from a situation.

Their body language will be facing away from the other person. This is so they can potentially walk or run away if they sense a threat. Their legs will be uncrossed and their posture is of someone who does not want to remain in that moment.

Likewise, a woman who does not want to talk to you will exhibit these same signs.

  • Turned on body language

In contrast, the body position of someone with shoulders locked in or their legs crossed towards you demonstrates contentment in conversation.

If we apply this body language to a woman it is an indicator that she wants you to approach her or remain speaking to her.

Combined with the other gestures of eye contact, smiling and hair playing, she is giving you clear go-ahead signals that she wants you to approach and speak to her.

Reading women’s go-ahead signals

In this article, you have learned how to read a woman’s signs that she wants to be approached.

If you would like to learn how to read a woman’s sexual signs of intent and how to take the next steps, then I can help you.

To find out more about my training visit my live training page and book a consultation call or sign up for my newsletter below.


A model with three ways to read her go-ahead signals


Summary of signs she wants to be approached


  • When she looks at you, smiles and looks away, then looks back at you
  • If she gets proximity with you, meaning she has a choice on where to stand or sit and she decides to stand or sit very close to you
  • When she makes exaggerated body movements; laughing, smiling or dancing to get your attention
  • If she plays with her hair while looking at you with prolonged eye contact
  • When she sits or stands with her shoulders facing towards you or one leg crossed over the other

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