Signs She Wants You Sexually | The Ultimate Men’s Guide (top five ways)

Signs She Wants You Sexually | The Ultimate Men’s Guide (top five ways)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I will be divulging the five signs she wants you sexually.

I’m going to begin by distinguishing the difference between a woman friend-zoning you (when she sees you as simply someone fun to spend time with), and when she finds you sexually attractive.

When we first see an attractive woman, we have a bodily response of a surge of energy. We all have that one friend, who when there is an attractive woman nearby, he grabs your arm or he nudges you and gets very excited.

This represents an energy that is biologically wired into us that allows us to put our best foot forward.

It brings us into the moment so that we can harness our energy in an attractive way.

Signs She Wants You Sexually #1 – She Plays With Her Hair

Similarly to men, women also have a biological response.

And that response is also a surge of energy.

A good way of working out whether you are sexually attractive to women is to notice whether they play with their hair when first seeing you.

That is a cast-iron sign that a girl likes you sexually.

This also works in conversation.

You could be talking to a girl who doesn’t exhibit hair-playing when you first meet her.

You start conveying nice things about your personality. Like the fact that you are creative, athletic, or that you have a good job.

All of these things are attractive to women.

When you convey them in conversation, you have another opportunity for a woman to become sexually attracted to you.

Again, what often happens is she will start to play with her hair.

Hair-playing by itself is a good signal, but it is not a cluster of signals. Instead, we have to look for a few other key signs (and I will cover this later in this article).

As per the image below we can teach you how to read a woman’s go-ahead signals. 

To find out more about our tuition then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.

A model with three ways to read her go-ahead signals

Signs She Wants You Sexually #2 – Prolonged And Deep Eye Contact

The second way that women show you that they are attracted to you sexually is with prolonged eye contact.

When not speaking, it is very easy to look at a girl directly into her eyes.

However, it is more powerful to look at her eyes when you are speaking.

This will convey ten times more confidence.

If you find yourself in a situation where a girl is playing with her hair, and she is holding deep and prolonged eye contact with you: these are indications that she is attracted to you sexually.

Hair playing and deep eye contact together are known as a body-language cluster.

They are cast-iron signs that there is sexual attraction.

If you would like to learn some of the other signals a woman gives when she is flirting with you, then take a look at my infographic below.

You can read the full article here – Signs She’s Flirting With You | The Comprehensive Guide (15 FAQ’s)

Fifteen signs she wants you sexually and is flirting

Signs She Wants You Sexually #3 – Her Legs Are Crossed Over When She Is Talking To You

The third way a woman can signify if she likes you sexually is when she is standing and speaking to you with one leg crossed over the other.

I have worked as a dating coach for a number of years in many different countries in Europe. In the early Social Attraction days, I filmed many of the interactions of clients during this period and I would also edit all of our video footage.

Therefore, I got to watch back all of the dating interactions and it is fascinating to see the moment when a woman becomes sexually attracted to you.

Conversely, you can also observe the exact moment you turn a woman off sexually when you do something unattractive.

So why does a woman stand with one leg crossed over the other when she is sexually attracted to you?

She is showing that she doesn’t want to walk away quickly.

She is content to remain there in conversation with you.

If you imagine the opposing body language, which would be her legs and body facing away from you.

That is symbolic of someone that can escape and walk away quickly if required.

So when a woman stands in front of you with one leg crossed over the other, it is a key indicator that she finds you attractive.

If you compound all three of these signs:

  • Deep eye contact
  • Hair playing
  • Standing with one leg crossed over the other in conversation

These represent three main body language signs that a woman wants you sexually.

You can then look-out for these signs in any of your interaction with women and know that you can confidently progress the relationship.

By the way, if you struggle to start a conversation with women, then the comprehensive infographic I have created below can help you.

You can also read my full article by clicking the following link – How To Approach Women | The Ultimate Guide (with illustrations)

9 different techniques to approach women

Signs She Wants You Sexually #4 – She Touches You For Too Long

The fourth sign a woman wants you sexually is when she touches you in a drawn-out way.

There is a big difference between touching someone as a friend and touching someone sexually.

When we touch someone sexually it is drawn-out; there is a longer period of contact than necessary.

The prolonged pause of her touch is a sign that she wants you sexually.

So a girl may touch your elbow or, as she touches you, she gets closer to you.

That touching – if it is extended – is another sign that she wants you sexually. She is closing the space between you and her, via the use of touch.

Women are very good at this because, trust me, if she is not attracted to you sexually, there is no way she will touch you.

That is a key indicator that she finds you sexually alluring.

My infographic below outlines the other main traits that women initially look for in a man, which will help you in your dating interactions.

I suggest you also read my corresponding article as I outline how to best convey each of these 10 traitsFirst 10 Things A Woman Notices About A Man | A Modern Guide

Ten things a woman considers before she wants you sexually

Signs She Wants You Sexually #5 – She Gets Physically Close To You

When a woman stands closer to you than normal you can take this as a sign to look for that she may be sexually attracted to you.

A good way of testing this is when you are talking to a girl and you move back slightly. Or you say: “Oh, let’s stand over there.”

If a girl moves closer to you than where she was before, it is a key indicator that she likes you.

As per the image below, we can teach you how to approach women once they give you a clear go-ahead signal.

To find out more about our coaching then you can visit the following link – Social Attraction Training Courses.

Model looking at camera with three ways to approach attractive women


  • #1 – She plays with her hair. In contrast, if she does not play with her hair. She seems too comfortable and relaxed, in my experience, there is no attraction there.
  • #2 – Prolonged and deep eye contact. If you are speaking to a girl and she does the exact opposite. She’s on her phone, she’s looking around, she’s not paying attention. Again, that is a key indicator that she doesn’t like you sexually at all.
  • #3 – She crosses her legs directly towards you. If she points her feet away from you this indicates that she does indeed want to walk away.
  • #4 – She touches you in a drawn-out way. In contrast, if a girl is very standoffish and doesn’t touch you at all, that is a strong indicator she likes you only as a friend.
  • #5 – She stands closer to you than normal. If a girl keeps moving further away when you are speaking to her, that is a signal that you are not alluring to her.

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