Signs She’s Flirting With You | The Comprehensive Guide (15 FAQ’s)

Signs She’s Flirting With You | The Comprehensive Guide (15 FAQ’s)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I am going to give you the 15 signs she’s flirting with you. I will be answering 15 of the most common questions that I get asked about whether a woman is flirting.

This will cover her body language, her conversational topics, and her general demeanour.

Being able to identify when a woman finds you attractive and is flirting with you will help you tremendously in your dating interactions.

You will learn clear signs of female attraction including:

  • Verbal signs that a woman is trying to flirt
  • Body language indicators that she is flirting
  • The distinction between being flirting and being friendly

By the end of this article, you will have a blueprint for knowing when a woman is giving you clear, go-ahead signals. This will help you to progress your relationship with her.

How do you tell if a girl is flirty or likes you?

The first way to tell if a girl likes you is when she asks you dating type questions like:

  • Do you live around here?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • How old are you?

These types of questions are functional questions.

Women tend to ask functional questions because there is a level of interest in you and she wants to know more about you.

Likewise, if you tend to ask a woman these types of questions, then you are also showing that you like her and find her attractive.

However, if you want to be less obvious and more mysterious in your dating interactions with women, then avoid asking these types of questions.

Instead, steer towards more emotional-based questions.

Questions such as:

  • How did you come to do that job?
  • Why do you like travelling so much?
  • How come you like to dress in a stylish way?

These are much better questions to ask women that do not show your intent. They also reflect a high degree of emotional intelligence on your part.

Given today’s current increase in online dating, propelled by the coronavirus crisis of this year, being able to demonstrate emotional intelligence on your virtual dates will make you stand out from the rest.

In the following infographic, you will see a depiction of the three types of intelligence you want to convey in your conversations with women. Emotional intelligence forms one of these.

To learn more on how to display each intelligence read my article here – How To Carry On A Conversation With Women | The Complete Guide

3 types of intelligence to convey to women after she has displayed signs of flirting with you

Female body language signs of attraction?

The main body language signal of attraction from a woman to a man is when she is smiling at you:

  • This can be as your eyes catch across the room
  • It can be when she starts smiling more at you during the course of a conversation

One thing to take note of is that if a woman is smiling during the initial conversation. However, she begins to smile less as the interaction progresses, it is likely because you have demonstrated something unattractive about yourself.

In my experience, this is more often because you have conveyed one of the following traits:

  • Been judgmental; meaning you have assigned a judgement to something she has said
  • Over-exaggerated something about yourself to try and sound better

Both these traits indicate that you are insecure in some way. Moreover, they are unattractive to women.

So to sum up, smiling is a very clear body language sign of attraction that a woman will give you if she is flirting with you and enjoys your company.

To learn more about the other signs of insecurity you may be conveying in your conversations with women take a look at my infographic below.

In my corresponding article, I talk about how to avoid conveying each of these 9 signs of male insecurity. To read it simply click on the following link – Dating Coach For Men | 9 Signs Of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off

9 signs of male insecurity that turn women off and stop them flirting back

Physical signs a woman is interested in you?

One of the clearest physical signs she’s flirting with you is when she begins to fidget.

For example, she is sat down and begins to move around by:

  • Playing with her hair
  • Adjusting her clothing
  • Fiddling with her bracelets or rings
  • Taking her straw and twirling it round in her drink

This is because she is feeling a certain level of anxiety because she is attracted to you.

And if you think about it from a man’s point of view, often we can get anxious about approaching and speaking to women who we find attractive.

Therefore it makes sense that a woman has a similar physical reaction. So when a woman is fidgeting, she is also feeling some level of anxiety because she is interested in you.

Below you will see a photo from a course I hosted on the art of seduction. In this course, I outline steps on how to read her body language and build attraction which you may find useful.

You can watch the whole 90-minute event here: The Art Of Seduction With Women | Gary Gunn | Full Length HD

Gary Gunn hosting the art of seduction course in London detailing flirting techniques

Girl flirting with eyes?

When a girl is holding deep and prolonged eye contact with you, it is a clear indicator that she is flirting with you via her eyes.

She is trying to ‘lock you in’ to the conversation with her eye contact.

She may lean forward towards you and hold eye contact so that you cannot look anywhere else in the room, other than directly at her.

Often she will then move slightly closer to you as well.

Similarly, when she is holding deep eye contact, she is not looking around anywhere else. She is making it clear that she wants you to look back only at her.

This is a very clear signal that she is attracted to you.

As per the image below we can teach you how to read a woman’s go ahead signals.

To find out more about our coaching then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.

A model with three ways to read her go-ahead signals

Obvious flirting signs?

One of the most obvious signs she’s flirting with you is when she laughs even when what you are saying is not that funny.

We have all observed a guy who has a girl with him who is laughing all the time. We are baffled and think to ourselves: But that is not funny.

She is laughing because she is indicating to him that she likes him and she is being flirty on purpose.

In other words, she is making her intention more obvious to him.

So when you are talking to women, take note that if you make two or three jokes and you think: Hmm, that one wasn’t really that funny. Yet, the response you get from a woman is laughter.

This is a sign that she likes you and is flirting with you.

Along with laughing or giggling more, you may see the following:

  • Perhaps she is speaking at a higher pitch
  • Her voice may be slightly unsteady
  • She may even blush as she laughs

These are nervous reactions that women can exhibit when they are attracted to someone.

Above all, I would say that laughing is one of the biggest signals that a woman gives a man when she likes him.

My infographic below will give you awareness of other key signs when a woman is attracted to you sexually.  Simply click on the following link to read my related articleSigns She Wants You Sexually | The Ultimate Men’s Guide (top five ways)

5 signs to look out for when a woman is flirting with you

Is she flirting with me or just being friendly?

The easiest way to differentiate whether a girl likes you sexually, or whether she is being friendly, is to consider whether she is validation-seeking.

Typically the way in which a woman will try and seek your validation is by telling you more about herself unnecessarily. She will give you information that you didn’t request.

For example, she may:

  • Start talking more about her job
  • Detail her training at the gym or yoga practice
  • Tell you her plans for the weekend

If it is evident that you didn’t ask any questions to invite these answers. Rather, she simply starts telling you, then she is trying to gain your validation. In a way, it is a form of trying to impress you. 

Moreover, you can view it as an indication that she likes you and is flirting.

Likewise, if you also find that you are sharing this information with a woman, it is because you are seeking her validation.

Be cautious here as women tend to pick up on any form of validation-seeking. They can often perceive it as unattractive. Indeed, it can put a woman off immediately.

My infographic below will help you to maintain a dominant frame around women. It also shows you how to avoid conveying behaviour that will get you consigned to the ‘friend zone.’

I suggest you also read my affiliated article here – How To Stop Being The Nice Guy | The Ultimate Guide (Top 5 Ways)

5 ways that stop you being friend-zoned by women

What is a flirtatious behaviour?

The biggest sign of flirtatious behaviour that women will often give you is when they play with their hair.

The reason for this is because when a woman first sees a man that she is attracted to, she has a surge of energy in her system. A common way in which she deals with that energy is to play with her hair.

Men also have a similar physiological response that has evolved over time:

  • When we see an attractive woman, we also feel a surge of energy in our body
  • This is because we are energising ourselves to put our best foot forward

Indeed, this response forms one of the foundations of human mating strategies that helps us attract and retain a potential mate.

Likewise, women do the same thing, except that they will more often use that excess energy to play with their hair.

And for us, it is great because we become aware that she is flirting, which makes it so much easier to progress any dating interaction.

In my infographic underneath are five important tips to keep in mind when you are actively dating that will help you save time, effort and energy.

You can read my related article by clicking on the following link – Five Dating Lessons For Life | Save Time, Effort & Energy Meeting Women

5 principles that enhance your dating interactions with women

What are examples of flirting?

Another sign she’s flirting with you is when a girl actively crosses her legs towards you.

Generally, if a woman is standing up talking to you and her feet are facing away from you, this shows she might want to walk away quickly:

  • She doesn’t find you attractive at all

However, if she is standing up with one leg crossed over the other, she doesn’t want to walk away quickly. She appears content to stay and speak to you:

  • It is a sign that she is interested in you

Similarly, when you are sat down and first speaking to a woman and her legs are crossed away from you, but then as your conversation progresses, she crosses her legs towards you:

  • That is another key indicator that she finds you attractive

Flirting signs guys miss?

Another of the main signs she’s flirting with you is when a woman touches her lips. And this is one that many men tend to miss.

This is often a subconscious behaviour from a woman, but lip touching is a really big indicator that she likes you.

So if you are in conversation and you notice that she is:

  • Playing with her hair
  • Moving around and fidgeting
  • Touching or licking her lips

These are a cluster of body language signs she is flirting.

Often guys miss on noticing the lip touching, but it is a really big sign to look out for.

To help you connect with women I have designed the following infographic. This will help you immeasurably in building attraction during your conversations.

You can read the related article here where I delve into each point in more detail – How To Connect With Women | The Ultimate Guide (top 5 ways)

5 ways to connect and flirt back in conversation

How do you tell if a woman is interested in you?

One of the main ways that a woman will do this is by asking for your help when she doesn’t need it.

For example:

  • She asks you for obvious directions
  • She enquires where you got an item of clothing that you are wearing
  • If you are on a night out she asks you about all the bars that are open late

When a woman asks you a question that she doesn’t need to and is attempting to instigate a conversation, she is likely interested in you.

This is particularly true if there are many other people she could ask, or she could easily look up the information on her phone.

So if a girl suddenly comes up to you and asks you a random question, it can be taken as a sign she is interested in you.

As per the image below we can teach you the female signs of sexual attraction.

To find out more about our training then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.

Model standing next to three signs of sexual attraction

Clear signs of female attraction?

The clearest sign she is flirting is when a woman lightly touches you as a way of initiating physical contact.

Often when a girl first meets you:

  • It can be the slight touch of a hand against your arm
  • She may touch you on the shoulder during conversation
  • Perhaps she touches you on the leg if you are sitting together

All of these are clear signs that she likes you.

On the contrary, if she isn’t attracted she will probably move further away. She will certainly not touch you.

So remember, a woman who finds a guy very attractive is likely to want to get closer to him. She may even lightly touch him during the conversation.

Look out for this in your own interactions.

In my infographic underneath you will find three flirting techniques that you can employ to enhance your interactions with women.

I recommend reading my full article where I outline how to use these particular techniques and also give a multitude of other ways to flirtHow To Flirt With Women | The Ultimate Guide (Top 17 Ways)

3 ways to flirt more effectively with women

What are flirting signs?

Another strong sign she’s flirting with you is when a woman’s shoulders are pointing directly towards you.

So if you can imagine talking to a girl and she faces away from you, then that is an indicator that she is not invested in you or in the conversation.

Conversely, if her shoulders are facing towards you, she is almost trying to lock you in with her body language. And, additionally, she would like you to do the same.

So something that you can do with a woman if she is locking you in with her shoulders is:

  • Reciprocate your interest by mirroring your shoulders towards her
  • Face your shoulders slightly away to show her that you are not as invested as her in the interaction

Often facing your shoulders away can lead to other signs of flirting from her. This may be validation-seeking or asking you functional questions for instance.

Your body language is one important facet of being attractive to women. The below infographic highlights the other traits that a woman will consider about you. Read my associated article here – First 10 Things A Woman Notices About A Man | A Modern Guide

10 characteristics that a woman reviews in any potential partner

Signs a woman is attracted to you?

Two other signs she’s flirting with you is she will tend to move closer to you or lean in when you are speaking.

These are clear signs of flirting.

However, these are also two body language behaviours that I advise men on my dating confidence courses not to exhibit around women.

  • Moving closer to her and leaning in both convey that you like a girl right away
  • Instead, you want to make sure that you stand up straight and you don’t close that space between you

Because when you do that, you are showing that you are confident and you are not seeking her validation.

Nonetheless, when a woman clearly likes you, she will tend to move closer to you and lean in when you are speaking to her.

These are two massive signals that she finds you attractive.

Below you will find a photo from a course that I hosted in London that focused on flirting techniques with women. You can watch the whole 110-minute event here – How To Flirt With Women Using Reflections | Gary Gunn | Full Length HD

Gary Gunn hosting a course on how to recognise signs she's flirting and flirt back

Flirting signs from a woman?

I have hosted many different dating confidence courses all over Europe. And one of the biggest signs that I have observed when a woman interested is that she will get physically close to you.

This is almost as a prelude to flirting.

This can be quite a difficult one to observe in the real world. As she could be standing roughly 1.5 to two metres away from you. Often she may have her back turned to you before you initiate any contact.

However, this may be something you notice in social environments over time, particularly if you look out for it:

  • You get eye contact with a girl and she is smiling then, later on, that same girl will be standing really close to you.
  • What she is doing is getting proximity with you as a way of allowing you to easily start a conversation with her

In a similar way, we can also use proximity as a tool to start talking to women that we find attractive

So as you walk into any social setting, rather than sitting miles away from an attractive woman, you could:

  • Go and get a drink
  • Or sit at the table next to her

As these actions make it easier for a conversation to start naturally.

Below is an infographic I created to make it easier for you to approach an attractive woman. Getting proximity is one of the steps you can take.

To understand how all three steps will help you overcome any approach anxiety read my article here – How To Overcome Approach Anxiety | Three Simple Techniques (that work)

3 ways to help diminish anxiety when approaching women

Signs she secretly wants you?

When a girl likes you and finds you attractive she will ask you about your plans or what you are doing next.

In my experience, if a woman asks you any of the following types of questions:

  • Is it your first time in this bar?
  • Do you come to this bar often?
  • Is this your local?
  • What club are you going to later?
  • Are you all out together?

These are questions a woman typically asks that reflect that she secretly wants you and finds you attractive.

So when you are speaking to a woman and you notice these types of questions, you can take it as an indicator that she wants to spend more time with you.

As per the image below we can train you in modern seduction techniques so you know how to progress a relationship.

To find out more about our coaching then you can visit the following link – Skype dating confidence courses for men.

Modern looking at camera next to three seduction techniques

Signs She’s Flirting With You – Summary

So to summarise the 15 signs she’s flirting:

  • #1 – She asks you dating questions like do you live around here and what you do for a living
  • #2 –She prolongs her smile at you in conversation
  • #3 – She fidgets because she’s feeling anxious around you
  • #4 – She holds deep eye contact with you
  • #5 – She laughs when you are not funny
  • #6 – She seeks your validation by giving you additional information about herself
  • #7- She plays with her hair consistently
  • #8 – She crosses her legs and faces toward you
  • #9 – She touches her lips while you are speaking to her
  • #10 – She asks for your help when she doesn’t really need it
  • #11 – She touches you lightly in conversation
  • #12 – Her shoulders are facing directly towards you
  • #13 – She leans in or moves closer to you when you are speaking to her
  • #14 – She gets physically close enough to you for you to start a conversation
  • #15 – She asks you what your plans are to establish if you will see each other again

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