Taking The Pressure Off – 3 Steps To Make Meeting Women Easier
A lot of us tend to feel anxious and overwhelmed at the prospect of learning how to talk to girls and it’s something that I used to struggle with too.
From my experience, some of the key contributing factors are that we think we should be perfect, we’re afraid of making mistakes and we set our expectations way too high.
In short, we put way too much pressure on ourselves, so here are my 3 steps to make meeting new women a much more enjoyable experience.
Taking The Pressure Off #1: Lower The Bar
We can help to alleviate much of the stress that we are feeling before we even leave the house by giving ourselves an easily achievable goal instead of setting the bar too high.
For example, we could tell ourselves that we only have to learn how to compliment a girl one when we are out shopping during the day, or that we only need to start one interaction with women during a night out with our friends.
Because our challenge is simple to complete, I have found that we feel an instant sense relief so we are able to relax and be in a better frame of mind to approach a girl we like when the opportunity arises.
Taking The Pressure Off #2: One Step At A Time
I have noticed that many of us are hesitant when we are first learning how to start a conversation with a girl because we look too far in the future and think of all the things that could go wrong.
The answer is simple; simply take it one step at a time. We are a champion for just making the approach and anything else is a bonus.
By making a few approaches in this way at the beginning, we find that the interactions naturally become longer and more fun without even trying, and our confidence then grows as a result.
Taking The Pressure Off #3: Embrace Mistakes
Making mistakes is something that we often avoid because we worried about getting embarrassed or people judging us. But actually it’s when we’re making mistakes that we learn the most.
If we can embrace making mistakes when speaking to women all of a sudden we don’t have anything to fear. Either it goes well and we have a great interaction, or we make a mistake or two and learn for next time.
And ironically I have found that when I am open to making mistakes, I make less of them as a result. One of the final areas where we could all gain from our mistakes is when we are learning how to kiss a girl for the very first time.
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