What To Text A Girl You Like | The Ultimate Guide (Top 8 Strategies)

What To Text A Girl You Like | The Ultimate Guide (Top 8 Strategies)

What To Text A Girl You Like | The Ultimate Guide (Top 8 Strategies)

What To Text A Girl You Like | The Ultimate Guide (Top 8 Strategies)

What To Text A Girl You Like | The Ultimate Guide (Top 8 Strategies)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

What to text a girl you like. There are a few things that I would like to point out before I get into how you should be texting people.

First of all, when you’re exchanging details with a girl that you like, you will save yourself so much time if you organise your next meeting there and then.

Trying to text someone to organise a date or a time to get together can be extremely frustrating. It can be very difficult, especially if the girl that you like leads a busy life.

Also, if you’ve got a lot going on in your life, texting someone to try and get a date organised is just very time-consuming. Ideally you want to try and avoid that.

So first of all, before you even think about what to text women. The easiest thing to do is to organise a date when you are physically with a girl. Get your calendars together and sort out what you’re going to do there and then.

What To Text A Girl You Like #1 – Save yourself a lot of time!

Once you’ve done that, you can then text a girl to confirm the details of the date. It saves a lot of trying to be funny, trying to be clever, trying to be flirty via text message. It’s just a much easier process.

Organise the date, once it’s there, you can then be a bit easier with your text messages to say:

“This is what we’re going to do and I’ve got this plan.” So that is definitely the easiest way of texting women. Now let’s get onto actually what to text a girl you like.

There are a few other things that I’d like to point out before I get to the actual dynamics of what you put in a message.

The first one is something called intermittent texting. My belief is that you should allocate certain periods in your day when you can text women back. Outside of those hours, you have no text dialogue with women.

What To Text A Girl You Like #2 – Use the law of intermittent texting 

The reason for this is because it stops checking our phone consistently all the time. It also has a powerful effect by creating mystery and intrigue.

Okay, I can text her as much as I like between 1:00 PM and 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM and 8:00 PM. Outside those hours, I’m not going to text at all.

This allows you to free up your mental thinking space. So that you’re not thinking all the time about texting a girl back.

You just come across as way more confident and relaxed. It’s also an effective strategy for online dating.

What To Text A Girl You Like #3 – Setting up healthy boundaries 

This type of process also sets up your relationship the right way from the start. What most guys do most of the time is when they like a girl, they’re very available.

They text her all the time, they’re always available. As the relationship progresses and that becomes untenable. They’ve set up the parameters of a relationship incorrectly at the start.

Allocate yourself zones and periods of the day where you can do that. It frees up the rest of your time. As I say, you can text as much as you like during that time. It’s just outside of those zones, it’s more effective if you have no text dialogue.

Now, what do you actually text a girl that you like? There are a multitude of different things that you can text women. Just a few things to bear in mind.

What To Text A Girl You Like #4 – Limit your emojis 

If you are going to use emojis, limit it to one, maybe two per message. When you’re messaging the girl, if she’s not using any emojis then maybe just stick to one.

If she’s using two or three, then is a sign that you can build a bit of a connection and have a little bit of fun with your emojis.

The other thing that you can do when you are texting girls is you can have a bit fun and you can just text them and say:

“I bet that you’ve been doing this today” and you can have a bit of a fun interaction by just guessing what they’ve been doing. This is instead of asking boring and mundane questions.

For example, if she says she’s out having coffee with friends. You can say, “Send me a photo.”  If you want to be a bit more adventurous you can send her a photo of what you’re doing and then say, “Beat that.

That’s quite fun because it’s quite interactive. A lot of guys are just texting general messages.

What To Text A Girl You Like #5 – Do not be afraid of rejection from women 

Now, when we are texting women that we like. It’s important to remember that we are ideally looking at meeting them again in person.

What we don’t want to do is just spend hours and hours and hours just messaging someone for no reason. At some point, you have to ask a girl that you like for a date.

When you’re messaging them, you don’t want to wait for 50, 60 messages. Which is what a lot of people do before you ask a girl for the date.

If she’s going to reject you and not be up for the date, she’s not going to be up for the date. Trust me, sending 30, 40, 50 messages makes no difference.

Just to make that point even clearer for you. If you meet a girl and she has an impression on you when you first meet her, it doesn’t really matter what she texts you in those 40 or 50 messages that you have. You formed your opinion of her already.

What To Text A Girl You Like #6 – Be authentic! 

So that just hammer home the point. If you’re someone who’s trying to be funny or trying to build attraction or trying to build a connection via text message.

Chances are it’s going to come across as a little bit mechanical. Women are typically going to be able to see through that.

So you’re better off just being genuine, and as I say, asking for the date sooner. If they don’t respond or they don’t come back to you or they’re not up for it. Then it’s a clear indicator that you didn’t do enough when you first met them.

What I mean by that is perhaps you could have spent another five minutes together. perhaps there was an opportunity to organise a date when you were with her.

Don’t get disheartened, because in the dating arena today, everyone gets rejected. It’s just a natural part of the dating rituals in the time that we live in.

What To Text A Girl You Like #7 – Send a test message

So just make sure that you’re not wasting so much time before you ask a girl for that date. You want to make it as easy for her and for you to meet each other and to see each other again.

When you ask a girl for a date over text messages, if she replies saying, “I can’t do that.” Or, “That doesn’t work for me.” If she doesn’t suggest another time, it’s a clear indicator that she’s not into you.

So if she says, “I can’t do that, but I’m free on Tuesday or Thursday, or when are you next back here?” That’s a clear indicator that she’s genuinely busy and that she’d like to see you.

Whereas if she just says, “I can’t do that time” and doesn’t offer another suggestion. Then at that stage it’s unlikely that she wants to see you.

If you wanted to test that, you could reply and say, “Are you going to suggest another time?”, which is reasonable and a good way of actually finding out whether she’s invested and whether she wants to see you again.

Honesty is the key

Because I think ideally, if the girl’s not into you or you’re not into her, I think just saving each other’s time, being open and being honest is just a much better way about going about dating, especially nowadays when people’s time is extremely limited.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s episode. And just to round it up, I was talking about the value of intermittent texting to make sure that you don’t text all the time all day.

The other area I discussed was talking about just using one emoji or maybe two, but don’t use them too much and don’t use them all the time, and if you do use them, try and mix them up a little bit.

I also talked about the value of asking a girl out for a date while you are with her and then using the text message as a process to just send her the details of that date, because that will save you so much time. Then we just talked about how to message girls and what to speak to them about.


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