Tinder Starting Lines That Get Responses | The Ultimate Guide

Tinder Starting Lines That Get Responses | The Ultimate Guide

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

So what are the best Tinder starting lines?

Well, over the years we have tried many different ways of messaging women online. I am going to share with you my three favourite ways.

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Use their name as an opening Tinder message

So my first Tinder starting line is where I just take the girl’s name and I put an exclamation mark. It is as simple as that.

What we are doing here is making it very easy for the girl to message us back by sending her an opening message. This is similar to Hi but is a bit more personable because we are putting her name in the message.

By doing this if a girl likes you, then she will also send back your name with an exclamation mark. Or she will say, “Hi, how’s it going?”

From our perspective, this is a very low-level investment. Indeed, if you are matching with a lot of girls online, it is a very simple and easy way of taking the next step to getting girls to message you back.

Use trance words as a starter message

My second favourite Tinder starting line is where we take trance words from her bio.

Trance words are words that are powerful and meaningful to us. So if a girl has written in her bio:

“I love meeting my friends for coffee, it’s my favourite thing to do”, you could message her “Love, coffee, friends.”

You take the three main words from her bio and you write that as an opening message. Another reason why this works is that it shows that you have read her bio.

If you are going to use that strategy, then make sure your Tinder bio is really good as girls are likely to read it before they message you back.

Flirt – Like – Question 

My favourite of the Tinder starting lines is something called ‘Flirt, like, question.’ It is very simple.

First of all, take a flirtatious approach. Point out something in her profile, which is a little bit unusual like something in the background of one of her photos. Then you mention something that you like about her profile.

Finally, you ask her a question.

For instance: “That’s an interesting second photo. I’m not quite sure why the coffee cup is at that weird angle.”

Something that isn’t perfect about her bio so she will know that you are being a little bit flirty with her. Then the second aspect is to like something, so you could say:

“But I really do like the photo of you and the elephant in Thailand.”

And then your final thing is to ask a question, which could be, “So tell me when you were travelling, where’s the best place you’ve ever been?”

This is a more involved style of messaging than the previous two that I gave you. However, this will enable you to practise flirting on Tinder, as well as connecting by referencing what you like about her profile or pictures.

Lastly, in an open-ended question, you are allowing a girl to respond to your messages easily


Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is the bestselling author of An Education In (Online) Dating.

He has hosted over 1000 dating confidence courses in the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 courses conducted online.

Moreover, he is the head coach at Social Attraction and leads the team, training and courses.
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