What Women Want In A Man | Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory

What Women Want In A Man | Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory

What Women Want In A Man | Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory

What Women Want In A Man | Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory

What Women Want In A Man | Darwin’s Sexual Selection Theory

Written by Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

So what do women want in a man? Well to be able to answer that question, we have to look at some evolutionary psychology to understand from a biological perspective what draws women towards certain men.

Now, Charles Darwin in 1859, published a book titled On the Origin of Species, and this is the first time that we had documented evidence about the theory of evolution and Darwin believed that the animals that were the strongest and most adaptable to change, are more likely to make it through to the next generation.

Now, what most of us aren’t aware of is that Charles Darwin published a second book later in his life where he spoke about something called sexual selection.

Now, Darwin believed that we don’t only compete with other species, but we also compete within our own species to mate with a highest value member of the opposite sex. Darwin believed that we have developed such things such as creativity, music, and art, as ways of showing off our genetics to the opposite sex.

Now we think about this from the other perspective. What are men attracted to in women? Darwin believed that it was signs of youth and beauty and this would make sense because if you think about it, the make-up industry and the beauty industry is worth billions of dollars worldwide.

Now, why would that be? There is obviously some kind of reason behind why women spend so much money on make-up, on hair, on beauty products, on cosmetic surgery. It is to show off signs of youth and beauty. This is according to Charles Darwin’s sexual selection theory.

Now, this would make sense if we flip the coin back over to what women want in a man.

Once we understand that women are attracted to good genetics, we can start to think about what it is in our life that is attractive to women. So are we intelligent? Are we creative? Are we physically big and strong?

Because it is one thing having good genetics, yet it is another being able to show them off. So you want to be able to be in a position where you are around women who you find attractive, where you are able to show off your genetics, and if we think about this in a real-world, sports stars do this all the time. Musicians do this all the time. Storytellers, writers, they all do this all the time.

So what do women really want in a man? How can we make this specific to you?  Think about what it is in your life that you are naturally drawn to, that you are naturally talented with.

Most of us have some kind of creativity in our life that if we gave it more time and more hours to flourish, we can become very good at either being creative or being physically big and strong, or writing or something that shows off our genetics to women.

The first step is to work out what that is and the second step is obviously to take the first parts of using that in your life to become more attractive to women.

Now say we play this out and you’ve now started to become more creative. You’re learning to play the piano or you’re learning to play the electric guitar. Once you are in a position of starting to learn, this is something that you can then start talking to people about the fact that you’re learning how to do it because often is not a case of being the finished article.

If you’re a guy who is showing signs that you are working towards something and that you’re ambitious and that your highly excited about your future, that is also attractive to women because they’re not necessarily attracted to a guy who is the finished article and if we think about this in younger years, especially at colleges and universities, women are typically attracted to the guys with the most potential in life and this is important to remember.

You don’t have to be the finished article yet. You just have to be showing potential that you can develop your life.

Now let’s just round up this episode and make it succinct to some takeaways from this. So what the women want in a man, according to Charles Darwin, they want good genetics and the first step towards that is working out what it is about our genetics that are unique and that are good.

The second step is to give that area of our lifetime to develop and the final step is to put yourself in a situation where you’re able to express your intelligence, your creativity, or your physique, in a way where you are around the type of women who you find attractive.


Listen to The Gary Gunn Show Podcast #113 – What Women Want In A Man


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